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It's Official! Kensington Palace Confirms Prince Harry is Dating Meghan Markle

Tuesday, November 8, 2016

While the papers and tabloids have run multiple stories now about Prince Harry's alleged relationship with Meghan Markle, the Palace has been silent...until this morning. This morning, Kensington Palace issued a long press release objecting to the treatment Ms. Markle has received since the news broke and in the process, of course, confirming their relationship.  

Meghan Markle Instagram

Regrettably, it sounds like Meghan and some family members have been subject to a little more than the usual paparazzi attention. In the press release, the Palace refers to some disturbing behavior, including what sounds like attempted home invasions!
But the past week has seen a line crossed. His girlfriend, Meghan Markle, has been subject to a wave of abuse and harassment. Some of this has been very public - the smear on the front page of a national newspaper; the racial undertones of comment pieces; and the outright sexism and racism of social media trolls and web article comments. Some of it has been hidden from the public - the nightly legal battles to keep defamatory stories out of papers; her mother having to struggle past photographers in order to get to her front door; the attempts of reporters and photographers to gain illegal entry to her home and the calls to police that followed; the substantial bribes offered by papers to her ex-boyfriend; the bombardment of nearly every friend, co-worker, and loved one in her life.
I haven't followed all the reports about Meghan since my last blog post. There were a lot of conflicting details running about and I figured a lot would settle into place with time. I don't know what smear piece ran about her, since the headlines and articles I did read were all very positive about the breath of fresh air she'd bring to the BRF. Certainly, the stories from disgruntled relatives and the like have made the news, which is sad.



Harry was right to press release on this, and to give details about the aggressive methods that are used to try to gain information. Legal action aside, it seems the only hope he has of leveraging public attention to stop any behavior that does not cross legal lines, but certainly should be considered infractions on unspoken societal codes.  How much of an impact this PR will have is another matter. I don't think that public interest in Meghan will wane, in fact with this confirmation she becomes even more interesting. Since the public only sees the sanitized results of the actions used to gain the info in stories, I doubt it will have a measurable impact. 

I think the press can do its job, gather and report on this story--which is a legitimate news item--without hounding everyone connected with Meghan Markle. I cannot imagine nightly legal battles to keep defamatory stories out of the press or having exes bribed to share personal details to the world. Although Kate had her own microscope to contend with, I don't think these were the particular pressures with which she had to contend.  She didn't have the same personal history that Meghan has and I think her living arrangements were (from the sounds of it) a little more secure. Additionally, her family and friends (for the most part) were quite united in their stance on privacy. I hope Harry is able to find a way to a little more sanity in this situation. With today's endless news cycle and the voracious appetite of the internet for more, more, more, the solution to this mess is a veritable Gordian Knot. You can read the full press release from KP here

137 comments:

  1. Wow. What a candid, forthright letter. I guess I'm not used to seeing such plain talk in a royal family press release. Sad that she's under fire like this. I wish them the best.

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    1. sarita- I wonder what a press release this early on from Edward VIII might have said. I don't think there was any acknowledgement of his affair until his abdication speech.His romances were bandied about in private gatherings, but rarely spoken of in the press.

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    2. Edward VIII's romances were all with married women. Everyone in Britain knew of his relationship with Wallis Simpson and it was all over the newspapers in America. That being said, I agree that this press release is unprecedented at any time, even as recently as William's relationship with Kate. I am shocked that they used the phrase "his girlfriend." Times have changed. I wish them well.

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  2. Goodness, what was "the smear on the front page of a national newspaper?"
    I glance at several UK papers regularly and didn't see this!

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    1. Jennifer from the SouthNovember 8, 2016 at 8:35 AM

      The Sun ran a story this morning insinuating that Meghan's first marriage ended because she cheated on her husband with a hockey player. The headline said "Fancy a Puck." Who knows what else they have ready to run.

      You may notice that the US Press has been getting fairly accurate exclusives - and I am of the firm opinion it's because of how the UK Press has handled the situation. Harry's team have been talking for a week, but not to the UK papers because of the awful stories they've been publishing.

      IMO Meghan will suck it up and persevere on because she WANTS this with Harry... not only just Harry, but the life, and like Kate, she is willing to put up with what she has to to get it.

      We shall see how it all plays out.

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    2. Jennifer 8:35- there apparently were the obligatory pregnancy rumors as well.
      A story in ABC au highlights Harry's remarking through his rep that some will say
      it comes with the territory and "it's all a game." He responds that it is not a game; it is his life..." I am paraphrasing. I have used those exact words when criticising
      those who go from site to site, making unkind/untrue remarks as though it was a lark.

      Obviously, as I have insisted before, the royals and others are very aware what is being said, not only in headlines, but also by " social media trolls and web-article
      comments."
      I don't think a casual relationship is legitimate "news." Once engaged-and good luck with that now- yes, some facts are legitimately public knowledge.

      I don't read social media or random web sites. From what was said here, I gathered she was the one who
      put it out there. If so, they are experiencing fall-out from that and hopefully, Harry or someone has had a heart-to-heart discussion with her of what one does and does not share on social media.

      Of course, I am giving my opinion and have discussed this subject myself. I admire a few here and and another blog I read who refused to comment on this, partly because it was rumor and because it was titillating and none of our business.
      I do think it is important for us to see the scrabbling origins of some of these stories, how they come about, and the effect on the victims.
      The real lesson for me from this is that people need to take responsibility for their comments and consider the consequences of their words.


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  3. I am both thrilled at the confirmation of these two being in a real relationship and sad that the press is once again stepping over that line.

    Beyond the apparent despicable behavior here I would say that Harry is quite smitten here. Isn't this really something new? To release a statment so early on? Appears to be a very serious relationship. I hope they back off. I always think of Diana when this happens and it gives me chills to think that anyone else would be hounded to this degree. I am sure Harry cannot help but think on that very fact. It must be so unsettling.

    Happy for them.

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    1. It sounds like it is not just the press but also commenters on the articles that have been published, which is very sad to me bc the press might eventually listen to reason but poor Meghan will still be subjected to horrible abuse from unofficial "media" and individuals. If anyone wonders why Harry might have trouble finding a wife, or thinks that any girlfriend of his must only be seeking attention and "perks" hopefully this cold dose of reality puts that narrative into some perspective.

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    2. However as a celebrity I suspect she has already experienced lots of nasty comments on social media. Which is why many celebrities, unknown or not have only professional accounts set up that only deal with their work and which they do not read but only post to. If you want to keep things personal everyone in my extended family from 10 to 70 knows phone calls for any real privacy, private email for general info, and no Facebook, twitter, Instagram, snapchat etc for anything relating to your real life that you do not want known or commented on. I have not read much about her but I have not seen anything racist or nasty so maybe those comments are somewhere in the long list of general comments after the articles, When I glance at comment sections I see awful stuff no matter how innocent the original article was or how unknown the person being reported on is.

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  4. Jennifer from the SouthNovember 8, 2016 at 8:32 AM

    I am so proud of Harry. Good for him.

    I'd like to remind those who are not keen on Meghan due to her divorce that she was in fact married in Jamaica, in a ceremony that, while legal, was not recognized by her Church, and since she is divorced, she is actually free to marry in the Catholic or Anglican Church, free and clear. Please remember that Queen Letizia was in the same boat - she had a civil, and not religious, marriage, so there was absolutely no impediment to her marrying Felipe from a constitutional perspective. This is nothing like the Charles and Camilla situation - Both Charles and Camilla were previously married to their first spouses in the Church of England - and so a subsequent marriage in the Church was not an option for a future head of church. If Harry and Meghan marry, then they are actually free to do so (from a strictly religious perspective) in Westminster Abbey or wherever else they might care to marry. No civil ceremony with a blessing required. ;)

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    1. Oooh! That's very interesting. I had no idea. Thanks for the info!!

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    2. Fascinating! Thanks for sharing. Does anyone know would she have to renounce her citizenship in order to marry Harry?

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    3. That's the question that keeps coming up in my mind, Anon 8:41? It seems to me that it would be required but, since Harry isn't to take the throne, maybe not.

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    4. Jennifer from the SouthNovember 8, 2016 at 12:33 PM

      Autumn is still a Canadian citizen. Peter and Autumn's girls have dual citizenship.

      I honestly don't see the same accommodations being made for an American since it's not part of the Commonwealth... but we may all be jumping a bit ahead of ourselves nonetheless.

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    5. That's why I was curious Robin. Could she maintain dual citizenship? I am assuming she would need to a least obtain uk citizenship to be given a title?

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    6. She would not be given a title--purely using the feminine equivalent of whatever he was given, as Catherine does.

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    7. I don't think she would have to renounce her citizenship, but it would probably be a good idea. If you check the websites of both UK and US immigration policies they both say something to the effect that it's recommended that the marrying-in spouse renounce ties to the birth country and declare for the new nation of residence. Since it's the same for both UK and US, it shouldn't be a big deal (publicly) for Meghan to become British. It will, but it shouldn't.

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    8. Kate was given a title - she is a duchess. Her title as princess is in relation to William.

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    9. She is a Duchess because she is marries to a Duke: she has no title in her own right.

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    10. So if they get divorced she loses her title?

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    11. Fergie is still the Duchess of York as her ex-husband remains unmarried. Should he re-marry his new wife will become the Duchess of York and Sarah will not have a title. I imagine this would be the same situation if heaven forbid Kate and William were to divorce.

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    12. Thanks for that anon 8:12. In what situation would a woman be able to keep her title after divorce?

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    13. Technically, Sarah is "Sarah, Duchess of York." Not THE...- that was her married title.Since she is the mother of his children, I wonder if she would become the Dowager Duchess...That's an odd thought. I guess that would be for the widow of a Duke, once her son marries.

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    14. So can only married (or widowed) women have titles?

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    15. Very well done, Harry also keeps his position in LOS as law recently changed, Prince Michael and his nephew Earl of St Andrews both recently reinstated despite marrying Catholic divorcees and Meghan has never had religious wedding ceremony

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    16. Well done also Harry would remain in the British line of succession, both Prince Michael and his nephew the Earl of St Andrews have recently been reinstated after marrying Catholic divorcees; Meghan has never been married in religious wedding ceremony

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  5. I’ve said this before but I’ll say it again. While William and Kate have had their ups and downs with the press, they were fortunate in that they met at University and had four years of relative peace and privacy in order to get to know each and fall in love before the onslaught of the media hit them. They had the time to solidify their bond and thicken their skin. And even then, Kate found it difficult at times and intervention was called for on her behalf and on behalf of her family. And William was pressured to the point of breaking up with Kate for a short time. Harry doesn’t have that luxury. He didn’t go to University and so did not have a period of privacy and a community of women to become friends with and then to have a relationship with away from prying eyes. All of Harry’s relationships have been carried on in the public eye and it must be tremendously difficult for him. From my read of this morning’s press release from KP, I think Harry is “this close” to chucking the whole thing and moving to Africa to live out the rest of his life. Wouldn’t surprise me one bit. I’m sure the only thing stopping him is his love of his brother and his sense of obligation and duty to country. But could he be pushed over the edge? You bet he could. And I think this is him teetering on the brink. The most important line in that whole KP message is this: “This is not a game – it is her life and his.” Harry is not naïve. He knows that his life is fodder for gossip and speculation and I don’t think this statement berates anyone for that. What it does criticize is harassment and bullying. A sense of decency is called for from all of us.

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    1. Jane 9:25- we had some similar thoughts. You are one of those I admire for your stance on this issue.
      Decency, kindness, and a bit of the Golden rule. Sorry to repeat myself, but-just because someone is well-known and in the news does not mean they are exempt from
      decent treatment.
      Your contrast of William and Harry's dating experiences-a useful way to put this in
      perspective. Charles went through some of this. Even without the internet, a bachelor
      heir to the throne was the target of endless speculation.
      Perhaps the very sensitivity that makes Harry so effective in his projects leads to
      his unusual (for BRF) reaction with this press release.
      Wouldn't it be wonderful if humankind has progressed beyond the feeding-frenzy,mob-like
      attacks , at least by the time George and Charlotte are trying to find a life partner.
      Or even a Saturday night date.


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    2. I agree with you both,although I would also say that Kate was an unknown.At least this girl is an actress and is probably somewhat prepared to live in the public eye.

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  6. Now that Prince Harry seems to have confirmed that this young lady is rather special to him, I hope that they will be given time and space to get to know each other better.
    I agree with Jennifer from the South--if she is Catholic and married in a civil ceremony, the church would not recognize it as a marriage. Princess Michael was in that situation as well as the Queen of Spain.

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  7. Harry ceetainly did the right thing as Meghan seems to be overwhelmed by the situation. The racist comments are to publicly condemned. But: Meghan0s relatives have almost encouraged the press,and while I think that Meghan has no control over all her relative's keeping thier mouth shut, she ceetainly could have avoided a bit of the circus by releasxing a "no comment", or merely not posting any sublt hint on her social networks.

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    1. What about Kates uncle? Meghan is not the only one with loud mouthed relatives. And she was already a far more public presence than Kate ever was before her engagement so the balance Meghan must find between maintaining privacy and being able to repeat behind high walls is fundamentally different than Kates ever has been.

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    2. Well, why do people need to draw comaparisons with Kate all the time. It's annoying. Meghan's half sister made a lot of wird comments so did her newphew/cousin? Plus, Meghan could simply just say nothing but she chose to post suspicious pics on her acccount just after the story broke out. Surely, she could have avoided in doing so? All I'm saying is that if she kept silent, maybe she could have helped a bit.

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    3. I totally agree with you Martina. Something smells funny with this one because of the fact that she was hinting of this relationship before anyone knew. With the royals being so particular about keeping their private life just that, I find it incredible that she would do this on social media. I too believe that if she had not this relationship would not have come to light so soon. I do not believe in the negative stories, someone should not be abused in anyway, however, something about her just doesn't ring true to me.

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    4. So how do they balance living a "normal" life (like W&K are supposedly tying to do with G&C) and at the same time insist that Harry's girlfriends act act differently (not their "normal") in order to date him? Posting pictures to social media accounts during the first exciting months of a new relationship would be harmless if she was dating anyone else.

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    5. KiwiNic I hope that Meghan is left in peace, or that at least those horrible invasions do not get repetead, but I also hope that Harry is wise enough to have a chat with his girlfriend about what she should say and don't say in order not to court the media.

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  8. When this info first started hitting the press I said I was not sure about the two of them long term. Mainly because of their respective careers. If she wants to maintain an acting career it is almost impossible to do that with Harrys work. One of them would have to severely modify what they do. Now one of them may be ready to do that, who knows. The other aspect of the relationship that struck me was her not so subtle pics of what was going on with her, she is savvy enough to know what the banana pic and the the other London and bracelet pics etc would lead
    to. She may have been totally innocent in what she was posting but I guess I am more cynical than that. Will be happy to be proved wrong.

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    1. Ali, I don't think you are wrong. She has to be media/social media savvy given her profession. My guess? She was tired of the anonymity and wanted the relationship out in the open. How could she not know this would be the fallout?

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    2. I tend to agree. She "outed" them, so to speak, but I don't think she had any idea in doing so it would wreak havoc in her life. The British and European tabloids make the American versions seem like child's play.

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    3. Why assume any "outing" happened without Harry's consent?

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    4. Jennifer from the SouthNovember 8, 2016 at 12:39 PM

      I agree that she wants the attention. I think she thought the fallout would be papparazzi and the odd news article about ex-husbands, etc. - which she is likely well-equipped enough to handle. I think that trying to break into her house and some of the articles ("Fancy a Puck" being a prime example) are way across the line and would not have been tolerated with Kate and should not be tolerated now. Kate was pictured going to her Chelsea flat at night (taxi home from a club) and then exiting said flat the next morning, overnight bags in tow, with Willem Marx. The media didn't print the story, likely because there was absolutely nothing to it, although the insinuation could have been bad since the media has gone a lot farther with much less. IMO this plays into the "good William v Bad Harry" narrative the press have been going at for years.

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    5. It also helps a narrative putting Kate on a pedestal and anyone who is not Kate in a less favorable light.

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    6. I guess I would have to agree that she did not realize the real havoc that would ensue Robin. On the other hand, how could she not. It is common knowledge how unscrupulous the tabloids can be, and as an American actress, I think she could have assumed that they would be even more unscrupulous toward her than normal. Maybe, she didn't care and just wanted to push the relationship to the next level no matter what , and now is
      looking to her prince for some protection.

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    7. I agree with some of the comments made here. I agree that she is after attention from the press. I also do not believe that she would not have an idea about the intrusion that came with this relationship. People state that she is an intelligent woman, therefore, ignorance cannot be claimed for this. There are other ways for this relationship to be acknowledged, such as being seen at an event together rather than hinting over social media. This just seems tacky and boastful. I read (no idea how much truth is involved in it) that she has wanted to break into London's acting/presenting scene. She tried 4 years ago and got nowhere. Now jobs are flooding in. Its just very suspicious. Only time will tell as to how much she wants to be with Harry. However, at the end of the day, someone's home should not be invaded and she needs to be kept safe.

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    8. I think she just thought there was no point in dating the most famous bachelor in the world if nobody knew about it.hence the tweets, and probably the leak.
      She didn't realise how bad it would be. Or, she is clever and having noticed how badly Harry reacted to the publicity,she appeals to him for protection....

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    9. Does anyone remember when Diana would call the press to alert them to where she was going to be? Was that tacky of just glamorous? Guess how one makes assumptions about the intent of a woman's actions says a lot about how one respects the woman herself.

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    10. I don't remember about Diana, but I have read a lot of negative comments about the way she used the press and how bad it was ultimately for her. In fact that is one of the things critics always bring when others are praising her. And she wasn't loved by the BRF when she did. In fact she was in a sad place at the time. It wasn't about drawing attention, more like a shout for help.
      So no the fact remains that discretion is essential.

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    11. Absolutely a shout for help. I think (as does her personal biographer and those who knew and cared about her) it was a last,
      desperate attempt at survival.
      Seeing this through Harry's eyes, it must be an agonising experience.
      Hopefully, lessons will be learned by all.

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    12. My point was that people give Diana a "pass" because they are sympathetic to her but aren't willing to be as charitable towards Meghan with their assumption about how she *might* be "using" the press. If we can give Diana the benefit of the doubt then why can't we do the same for Meghan?

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    13. Sometimes it's not what you do but how you do it.
      The press is still being used by some royals via a whisper in an ear, so to speak.

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    14. Diana did use the press but, to be fair, she did so out of desperation when she needed a voice that was denied her inside palace walls and also to combat the scheming of others. Apples and oranges to compare the scenario in this post with her circumstances. THIS is a new and I assume happy romance and discretion is the way to go.

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    15. To be fair to Meghan and Harry would be to assume they might need to make their voices heard in the press to combat the scheming of others.

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  9. I'm sorry to hear about the pressures facing Harry and Meghan are wish them all the best in their relationship. I think its good that Harry has put out such a strong worded statement condemning the torrent of abuse his GF has faced but I worry its all in vain. Anonymous racists and misogynists on social media are not going to listen to reason. Likewise its hard to see such a statement carrying any weight with the foreign press and paparazzi. This is of course nothing new, doing battle with the media has become a rite of royal passage. But does it really have to be? I cant help but feel the Royal Family could do more to solve these matters once and for all and really get to the heart of the mattter which is young royals suffer from excessive fame which they do not want or need. This doesn't have to come with the territory. If the BRF were to concentrate all their efforts and ambitions within their remit which is to say the UK and the Commonwealth then overtime interest overseas will wane. To use an analogy, no band can expect to keep selling albums in America if they don't tour over there. Except of course the young royals have nothing to sell which makes all this excessiveness even harder to fathom. I recognise fame isn't a tap which can be turned off and on again but certainly in the long run Charlotte and George can be spared this circus if the Royal Family make some cultural changes and stop feeding the fame monster.

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  10. Anon 10:38. That is an interesting perspective. I think you make an excellent point and maybe if Charles really does try and reduce the size and costs of the Royal Family then the interest will decline also.

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    1. Thanks for your reply. Perhaps with Charles's slimmed down monarchy we may see the monarchy recognise the limitations of its family members and tone down its global ambitions. To expand on my argument I believe there is too much demand for stories and photos of the young royals oversees which completely nullify's the palace's "gentlemen's agreement" with the British media not to use pap photos. Thats not to say the British press is perfect, it isnt and some of the coverage of Meghan has shown that but nevertheless they are cooperative. If you compare the British media's response to Pippa's phone hack to the French media's treatment of our royals over the years you'll see where I am coming from with this. By not engaging with foreign press, undertaking viewer visits outside the Commonwealth and not overly promoting their 'brand' oversee's the Royals can significantly reduce the demand which leads to such intrusions. I dont believe such a policy would make the Royals any less iconic or relevant either.

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    2. Charles doesn't truly want to reduce the size and cost of the BRF, he simply wants to keep the king's ransom for only his direct family. He has actually backed laws that greatly increased the income for the Crown Estates by taking shore land several years ago.

      He publicly says reduce to pay lip service but their income is greatly increasing. Now to slim down family members to keep that income going to fewer people.

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    3. 12:06, me thinks you are correct. It's one thing to sell something to the public and another to actually live it.

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  11. I feel very sorry for Harry and Meghan but I can't see this statement making anything better. It's like feeding a snack to the wolves. And, sadly, the business she is in is filled with people who want/need to see their names linked to whatever will give them press. Eventually one of those bribes will be accepted and a whole new brand of invasion will begin. This doesn't seem to be headed to a happy ending.

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    1. I think so too Robin. This is going to be an extremely difficult relationship to navigate. If it is going to work, people in general will have to suspend their ideas of what a princess in the BRF should be and accept her at face value. She has lived life to its fullest and it will all come out.

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    2. Jennifer from the SouthNovember 8, 2016 at 3:29 PM

      IMO I think she is the one who leaked it to begin with. I think it backfired on her, but perhaps she is willing to put up with it all for the prize... and maybe ultimately forcing Harry's hand (claim me as official or dump me) is what she was after anyway... She hasn't overplayed her hand yet, but I will be interested to see what happens.

      The spooning bananas and the puzzle with a pot of tea on IG were a bit over the top and suggestive she was ready to go public to me. This is one who knows the media game inside and out.

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    3. She definitely leaked it. I think she is fantastic on paper - educated at a good school, interned at an embassy, speaks more than one language, identifies as a feminist, supports worthy causes .. all good stuff. Plus she is beautiful to look at. But I can't but side-eye the way the relationship was broken to the media. Either she forced Harry's hand or they both wanted to be outed. Either way, it does not seem that she is a huge fan of discretion.

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    4. I agree heartily with you all. The blue bead bracelet and banana pics were a huge tactical mistake, and it's not like this is uncharted territory, after the lessons from how the press treated Diana and Kate. Not that this is any way excuses the trolling, racism, family slams and generally vile articles. But posting those pictures was like throwing yourself in a shark cage. If she was worried about her career being affected if this relationship doesn't work,
      just look at the press attention Chelsey and Cressida are still getting.

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    5. When members of the BRF travel abroad to countries of which HM is head of state, or to Commonwealth they do so at the request of the Queen and represent her. Travelling to other countries is at the request of the Government and is part of their job to represent British interests abroad.
      They do not decide to travel because they want their picture in the papers, or because they wish for a few days in some country.

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    6. Well said, Jean. I can't believe that those who write the personal PR/vacay nonsense actually believe their own words; besides, it attributes a great deal of political power and influence to the Cambridges that those same folks would deny.

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  12. It is sad that we live in a world where there is no respect whatsoever for people's right to privacy. I don't believe that if you are in the limelight that it comes with the territory. There just is no sense of decency with the yellow press. They will stoop to anything to get a story, whether true or not. Harry's mother was hounded, and of course this is front and center in his mind. I wouldn't blame him if he chucked the whole thing, and became a private citizen. Though, I am not sure that would stop the assault, at least at first. I hope he finds contentment and peace. I still am not convinced that this lady is the one. Only time will tell.

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  13. Robin, I have to agree. This is where the PR folks for Harry are either doing a poor job for Harry or he overruled them and put the statement out anyway. Even a simpler shorter statement would have been better. But IMHO simply showing up someplace together and ignoring the rest would have been best. Can not imagine anyone on social media or in the press really giving two cents about Harrys thoughts if they did not care before this letter came out.

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  14. My impression of the release was rather negative. It came across with a subtext of entitlement invoking Diana. There is global interest in the British Royal family and they enjoy huge privilege. If he doesn't want it why get involved with an actress and why press release it? I haven't seen anything racist or negative and obviously any such media activity is totally unacceptable, but this feels way too precious and self serving.

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  15. A newspaper I usually find reliable, although republican-leaning, is interpreting Harry's statement as another attempt to contol the press and the royal image.
    Did they not read the release?

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  16. I agree with much of what has been said here. I don't think the statement will be effective and also think if Harry wanted to release a statement, shorter would have been better. Although not as strongly worded it seems a bit like the Cambridge's statement about PG..the one that said reporters could get shot. I wonder if the same PR person wrote both?


    I agree privacy is becoming an outmoded concept. And not just for the BRF. In the US whenever there is a highly-reported crime, the public often becomes upset if it turns out there were no hidden cameras operating at or near the scene. Of course its nice when heinous criminals are caught by web cams but it amazes me how easily we've accepted being filmed just about everywhere we go. 

    I am sure the growth of the internet has made things worse but even in earlier times the press could be ruthless. Remember the wrongly accused security guard from the 1996 Atlanta Olympics? And Gary Hart's candidacy sinking after being filmed on the "Monkey Business"? Sometimes the press has colluded to hide things (JFK's habits when Jackie was away) and at other times press coverage has seemed unending (OJ's "trial of the century" and his ride in the white Bronco)

    But we're all a part of the "need to know now instant communication" mentality. Otherwise we (that "we" certainly includes me!) wouldn't have been waiting anxiously to see Kate's clothing choices on tour! I don't see there's any going back to earlier times that, in many cases, weren't all that great (I remember the press attention on Charles when he was younger too..and Pres Nixon trying to fix him up with one of his daughters? Yikes.)

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  17. The photo from her Instagram account-is that a peace sign or "V" for victory?
    And any info if that might be a helicopter she's riding in and who the pilot might be?
    If this is a recent photo-it is somewhat ambiguous, if not a not- so-subtle hint.
    This is the sort of thing she needs to avoid.
    On the other hand, I hope Harry goes after the rumor spreaders on "social media" in court and
    wins.
    Although I am not that invested in what Kate wears to be disappointed with an outfit, I am truly disappointed that the non tabloid press is attempting to blame the royals for the
    media's outrageous behavior.

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    1. Now that I've seen the picture on a larger screen I am sure its NOT a helicopter. You can see the plane's wing outside the window. I don't know that an airplane is a hint of anything special.

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    2. Ha, ha! lizzie. No wings on helicopters.She was wearing earphones...I have no excuse.
      I realised once it was published.
      Someone noted somewhere that snippets from her online postings from pre-Harry are being taken out of context and used now. She does not have control over such subterfuge without a copyright.

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  18. Hee hee lizzie, like your comments:)

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  19. My two cents-not about the couple, but the timing of the announcement. The general consensus is that when royals are on a major tour, the family tones down what it does. This has often been the case for the Cambridges, has been true for the Queen, Charles and Diana, etc in the past. Charles and Camilla are on a major tour of the Middle East, yet Harry draws attention from them to himself and Meghan through his statement. I just find it a bit irritating on Harry's part that he could have done it before or after their visit, and also could have written a shorter, more concise press release.

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    1. I don't think he is taking any thing away from their tour. They still are getting a lot of press. Harry had tondo it when he did to protect her.

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    2. Can't wait to see what new jewels Camilla has received from her Arab hosts.

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    3. Anon 1, we will know soon enough. :)

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    4. I doubt both C&C and W&C will be at Albert Hall tomorrow.Probably Remembrance Day is not the time to display new sparkles.But the next big white tie shindig perhaps.

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  20. Why get involved with a girl who seemingly loves the limelight and then act shocked and maddened when all this happens? I can't see this working without constant drama and fiasco. It seems-both the relationship and the letter, immature.

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    1. What did she do to love the limelight prior to dating Harry? Did Cressida use her relationship with Harry to launch her acting career? Did Chelsea play up her relationship with the BRF when she got her job as a lawyer?

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  21. I suspect that Harry wanted to keep the relationship from becoming headline news for as long as possible and perhaps Ms Markle had other ideas. This young lady needs to stop posting/sharing anything about her personal life. She may be an actress, but even she cannot appreciate the media frenzy associated with dating Harry.

    Harry watched his mother being hounded by the media and Ms Markle should be sensitive to this issue. And, Harry's plea on her behalf will lose all credibility if she isn't protective of her own privacy. I am reminded of a certain actor who has been known to lose his temper and get physical with photographers, while his young wife posts pictures on a daily basis. Doing so sends a mixed and somewhat immature message.

    Regarding the statement itself, it reminds me of the one released by W&K and while it is a bit lengthy, I cannot help but appreciate the respect and recognition of his good fortune expressed in the opening paragraph. And I am totally on board with the reference to this NOT being a game.

    If Ms Markle wants a future with Harry and hopes to have a good relationship with her potential future in-laws, she must not be seen as taking advantage of Harry's role or status. Trust is a key ingredient for a happy future here...

    Finally, I am aware that W&K were criticized for some of the precautions they exercised during their courtship, but IMO it was crucial in setting the stage for a successful partnership as senior royals. Harry may not have the same burden on his shoulders, but he also does not need an indiscreet gal at his side.

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    1. Harry's mother openly courted the press.

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    2. Disappointed in your conjecture here, Royal Fan.

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    3. 10:51, do you truly understand and appreciate the circumstances of Diana's life in the RF? Very, very different circumstances.

      11:59, I expressed MY opinion on the post. Feel free to express your own... :)

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  22. Let´s hope for the best,
    I´m sure Catherine will help Meghan and I do hope for the sake and safety of all that the press will back up or at least keep their distance
    No one should be subjected to this type of invasion
    Wishing her the best!

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  23. Well if anyone did not appreciate how hard it was for Harry to find a gf, I suggest you go read that press release again!!

    I have a different view on this then what most people have posted and I probably won't be popular for it but here goes.

    I find it interesting that many people are quick to judge her motives on very little evidence. A few rather generic instagram posts?? The banana post could be about anyone. The ones from London hardly scream "I am dating PH". In fact if you follow ALL of her posts you will find London was only one of several countries she visited this summer. The only one that caused me to a raise an eyebrow was the one where she was wearing the same braclet as Harry wears. In fact, before this was confirmed I read a lot of stories from people who dismissed those posts. "People will read what they want to see into anything....". Also I don't think Harry or BP were unaware of these posts and so they could have easily "suggested" that she stop. So to throw all the blame on her for these posts seems a little unfair IMO.

    All evidence aside, even if I agree that these posts were likely not a great move given the rumours that were flying around...I still don't see the need to make judgements about her motives. I don't know her and so I can only surmise what her motives are. But given that this is a young lady, who it has now been confirmed, Harry cares for and is interested in I can't imagine why the need to suggest she is interested for all the wrong reasons. Such negativity is uncalled for. I would prefer to see her as someone who could be a huge asset to the Royal family. This is a young lady who openly embraces her biracial heritage. This is a lady who has already invested time in charitable causes in Africa...interests that align with Harry's. This is a lady who has spoken very articulately on the world stage about the need to improve women's rights in the world. Will she have to win over the hearts of the British people. Absolutely. Will there be more negative press and media? For sure. Will this relationship last? I don't know and it is none of my business. But if Harry is willing to issue an unprecedented press release to support her....that says a lot about how strongly he feels about her. I am in Harry's corner on this. I just hope that Meghan still is after all this.

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    1. I agree with your thoughtful comments, Laurie. Once again, so much speculation and negativity on a subject that no one has any personal knowledge of. Why is it that so many people cannot just be kind?

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    2. I agree and I am really dismayed by all the comments suggesting she somehow orchestrated this. Harry is a grown man capable of making his own decisions, not a child. After everything he's lived through, I think he's probably pretty good at reading people.

      The stereotype of the hapless, helpless man being tricked by a conniving femme fatale into marriage is incredibly outdated and offensive to Harry.

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    3. Well said, Laura. I agree and wish them the best!

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    4. The thing that gets my maternal instincts on alert is that this letter could be as much of a desperate plea for help as his mother's candid interviews.
      Years ago the teenaged son of a governor of a US state committed suicide following
      a relentless pursuit by the press. This was before the internet, cell phones.
      Of course, the press backed off. But it was too late for the boy.
      I'm not drawing a parallel to Harry's circumstances; I'm just hoping that something
      will be done soon to prevent many more tragedies. There have been efforts here and there, mostly focusing on legal solutions. Perhaps eradicating cyber bullying could
      be approached as small pox or polio.I think Jean has brought up a valid option-an international approach.

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    5. 8:31, I hope you have had the opportunity to defend William and Kate from similar accusations.

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    6. Why pit W&K against H&M? What does one have to do with the other?

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    7. Good point, royalfan. I guess it's ok to bring up Diana and others if it proves one's point or gains sympathy.
      Otherwise, it's pitting one against the other. Convenient.
      I would say William, too, is a grown man and has been through trauma and world
      experience. I think he took his time to make his decision. No tricks. Just treats.

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    8. I haven't been reading this blog as long as many others have. But I don't recall anyone here ever bringing up the issue of whether Kate manipulated Will into a relationship then marriage, royalfan.  I expect the vast majority of readers find that idea ridiculous (as I do.) But W&K met when Will was, what, more than 10 yrs younger than Harry is now? I do find it sort of odd that a number of comments to this article suggest Harry is hapless and naive in matters of romance. So Will at 21 was in less danger of being manipulated than Harry is at 32? Gosh, I know Harry doesn't have a university degree but I've always thought he was the brother with the most "people smarts." I expect he is capable of deciding if Meghan is The One.

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    9. Super AMEN to your statements. -and especially to "The banana post could be about anyone. The ones from London hardly scream "I am dating PH"." I fail to realize how some posters reached such negative conclusions, based on a banana drawing. I wish Harry and Meghan the best of happiness.

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    10. Lizzie, my comment was a general one. No worries. :)

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  24. I hope she dumps him and I hope the reason why resonates with the "fans" of the BRF. And I hope they take a good look in the mirror about how they think think the BRF will go forward. And pat themselves on the back when Harry loses yet another woman.

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    1. Why so nasty?

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    2. Could some of the Pippa/Harry speculation have been prompted by sightings of Harry with the look-alike Meghan.? (through a blurred,long-lens in-the-bushes view)

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    3. Harry will not lose this woman if she loves him enough to deal with the bumps in the road. Prior girlfriends did not have this quality.

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    4. This comment was not "nasty". It is merely pointing out how many so-called fans of the RF have treated the news of Harry & Meghan.

      They have treated her with utter distain based on nothing. As the comments on this board pointed out - she's not fit, she wouldn't be approved of, etc....

      People have been awful including many on here.

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    5. I guess I have to wonder what it is that Harry could have to offer this woman that makes it worth her losing her career and privacy to subject herself to vicious comments from "fans" of her new family.

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    6. royalfan 9:42 I agree there was obviously a commitment lacking , or they might still be together.-Camilla certainly stuck with Charles through it all. Wallace with
      David.There are some great royal romances in recent BRF history.

      I think that there were likely other circumstances involved with former GF's, other than the public attention. It is a tricky thing to measure love. Harry tends to give his whole being to what is important to him. Sometimes a person can't tolerate being
      the focus of intense devotion. Whatever the reasons, we may never know, nor should we.
      I do believe it takes a commitment beyond romantic love. Probably a more mature
      bonding and relationship that usually develops from years of spending time together. This may not be an ideal example, as they are divorced, but I think Sarah and Andrew have that commitment.
      First, they need to live on the same continent, hopefully in the same country.
      Long distance affairs-flying about to exotic places, secret assignations, bring an excitement that can propell a relationship that otherwise could run out of steam.

      I think it would be lovely if they could experience the day to day life for years, based in one place, such as Sophie and Edward; William and Catherine. As I commented previously, "court in his own court." I think Harry would willingly make the move to Canada. A move to the USA might present difficulties.
      I don't know. I suppose I shouldn't comment at all, rather sympathetically or not.
      The impression I got from the statement was it was the physical intrusions and unkind, untrue gossip that was the objection. I think very few people would wish Harry unhappiness, but it may simply be the massive public interest that feeds and encourages the outrageous tactics of the tabloids. Maybe even kind remarks feed the media monster.


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    7. Anon 1, I cannot help but consider a bit of irony here... W&K's courtship received a lot of criticism, but in the end they got it right. They cherished their privacy and, along with a good dose of quiet strength, they created a very solid foundation for a future life together.

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    8. 10:00, if Harry is her soul mate and she loves him unconditionally, she will not ask herself that question. The answer will be clear...HARRY.

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  25. I think the comments on here accusing Meghan of "outing" them are justcanother way to attack her. It sounds like many knew if this relationship and rhe leakvcould come from anywhere.

    Look in the mirror, everyone! YOU are who Harry was referring to!

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    1. No! He was referring to sexist and racist comments as well as invasion of her personal space. Not obvious and benign comments on a fan site. The general public had no idea they were a couple until she posted the picture with the bracelet for all to see. She outed them plain and simple. So the question is, why did she do it?

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    2. How do we know Harry wasn't "in" on it?

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    3. I hope he wasn't. It was a really immature way to introduce her to the world as his gf.

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    4. Love Harry but between his nazi costume and naked Vegas partying he doesn't always make the most mature decisions

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  26. I think Harry took this unusual step to say some things that the media do to get their stories are not ok. I think this letter lays the groundwork for any legal action he may have to take to protect his private life. Ms. Markle is savvy enough to know what to expect but to have to ask for police protection for her home safety is not ok. Social media trolls are awful and we see them everywhere. Cyberbullying is part of Harry and William's platforms and it's a shame that grown people engage in this behavior too. There is a lack of empathy and civility when it comes to getting news stories. I am hoping that this unusual step allows Harry and whoever he dates to have a quieter, and happier, private life.

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    1. I read somewhere that the First Lady-to-be also wants to make cyber-bullying one of her interests. Perhaps our Trio could get together with her. It is an international problem.

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    2. Interesting suggestion. Perhaps via the UN? Or an international organisation such as United For Wildlife.
      I understand cyber-bullying includes insults and rude comments made on Twitter?
      Very apt concern for Mrs. Trump.I wish her success.

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    3. The Trumps have a young son so I could see the next First Lady taking this on.

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  27. Jennifer from the SouthNovember 9, 2016 at 4:59 PM

    https://beta.theglobeandmail.com/news/world/prince-harry-hits-out-at-media-intrusion-over-new-girlfriend/article32718190/?ref=http://www.theglobeandmail.com&service=mobile

    This girl deserves an Oscar.

    She lied to Harry to get him to react. She sure had me fooled.

    I hope that Harry's people read this story, do a little digging of their own and advise Harry to drop this chick like a hot potato. Of course he will say that the photos are lying, but we are now quite clearly dealing with a girl who could give a master class in media manipulation. She appealed to what she knew would get Harry - the danger - to force his hand and it worked. It's a shame that it was all a big fat lie.

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    1. We have no idea what Harry did or did not know so why assume she lied to him?

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    2. Jennifer 4:59- Thanks. I read that article, as well as a few other interesting items. Do you know what the general reputation of this source is? The writing style, editing,and use of named sources seem superior to that of the DM. However, to me, it seems the headlines tell one story and the final paragraphs another-not just in this article. A favorite tabloid device.

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    3. She is in London now and staying at KP. Interesting timing. ALL of them will be in town for the Remembrance event tomorrow.

      This could be very serious.

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  28. Jennifer from the SouthNovember 9, 2016 at 6:17 PM

    Comment not approved or just not looked at yet?

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    1. Sorry. I stayed up all night watching election returns on Tues, so yesterday I was behind in everything and rushing around with work and school. I just now remembered to check the comments. So, so sorry,

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    2. Jennifer from the SouthNovember 10, 2016 at 9:12 AM

      No worries at all!!! I was just worried that's all. :) Have a great day!!!

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  29. I've read some of the comments and I do not believe that anyone here is condemning this young lady's "motives"; I think it has more to do with discretion and judgment.

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  30. There was a smear piece allegedly written by her half siser stating that Meghan is a social climber and has left her family behind since becoming famous. I can't remember who ran the article but it seemed very vicious and like her sister was green with envy. It seems like all he wants is a family and someone to love. Hope the media doesn't mess this one up!

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  31. There was a smear piece allegedly written by her half siser stating that Meghan is a social climber and has left her family behind since becoming famous. I can't remember who ran the article but it seemed very vicious and like her sister was green with envy. It seems like all he wants is a family and someone to love. Hope the media doesn't mess this one up!

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    1. Horrible if true, but all the more reason for them to be a very private couple.

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    2. Or to be public so they can control the story. If they are hiding it opens the door for others supposedly in the know to advance runors as truth.

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  32. So excited about this new couple. I think Meghan is an interesting, intelligent, and cool woman. I like that she and Harry aren't hiding their relationship; I always felt bad about Kate and Will not holding hands and all that so as to offset some media attention. All good wishes to them.

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  33. Given the usual Royal playbook, Meghan Markle has several strikes against her if indeed it is her aim to marry Harry. Not necessarily in order of importance, they are: 1) she is divorced; her parents are divorced, her father, twice; 2) she is Catholic and, altho new Letters Patent have removed that obstacle, at least, on paper, who knows what underlying prejudice might still linger: 3) she is an American as opposed to a Brit or a member of a European Royal House, and we all know the fate of the last American divorcee (Wallis Simpson) who enthralled a member of the BRF; 4) she is an actress, a celebrity, by profession; 5) she is mixed race; her father is white, her mother, black, which could make for interesting great-grandkids for the Queen--is she ready to accept this? 6) she is 35 and, if she wants kids, is she willing to wait for the Queens green light?

    This, if Harry is serious, is going to be interesting AND enlightening; it may give us a big clue as to how much more pressure the firstborn, William, is under as compared to *the spare*, when it comes to marriage.

    JC

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  34. At the end of the day W&K were/are a very traditional couple and Meghan & Harry represent something much more modern. For everyone insisting that they must hide their relationship (discretion!) - where were your comments when Harry was dating Chelsey or Creasida? Was Chesley milking her royal connection when she got hired at a prestigious law firm? Was Cressida milking her royal connection when she used her break up with Harry to launch her acting career?

    And for those insisting that Meghan & Harry must date for a certain length of time before they could possibly consider themselves serious - did you think the same thing when Charles and Diana got engaged?

    And ask yourself - if Meghan was another blond, lily white British girl would you have the same opinions?

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    1. Would you kindly dismount that incredibly high horse you are on? I am a person of color and I believe that Meghan should have exerted some discretion earlier on. I think she is an incredibly qualified woman, and Harry would be lucky to have her. But there is no question that she played a role in whipping up that frenzy when the relationship was outed. And I also tend to believe that it was her team, that, with or without Harry's knowledge leaked the relationship.
      I hope the relationship goes the distance and Harry marries her. The royal family would be lucky to have someone so articulate amongst them. But Meghan made some early mistakes, she will need to learn from them.

      With that being said, Anon 9:32. Get off your high horse and get over yourself. Don't make everything about the color of skin and give readers and commentators benefit of the doubt. You sound like a self-righteous know-it-all.

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    2. To answer your questions:
      I don't remember about Chelsy but I know people though and wrote Cressida was milking her RF connexion. The publicity shot she did just after the break up was exactly that.
      Charles and Diana is the reason people think Harry should take his time and be quite sure. Their story proves it isn't that easy.
      I don't know what being blonde has to do with the question. Do you imply physical appearance is so important in a marriage? And were does it leave Kate,who is a brunette?

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    3. I thought race is off the table in this discussion.

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    4. No one is suggesting that they have to hide their relationship. What folks have suggested is that there's no need to advertise or reveal it via social media...especially if Harry is making a formal plea for privacy and respect. That does reflect poor judgement IMO which has zero to do with race.

      And for the record I have never been a fan of social media and do not understand the need to share every thought and action with the world...and in THIS scenario "world " is as literal as it gets.

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    5. To: Anonymous, November 11, 2016 at 9:32 AM


      You made some great points. I hope that Meghan and Harry will not allow any negatism from any source interfere with their relationship. I hope that they will work on any differences that they might have, come to mutual solutions, and Just be so happy together.

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  35. Did C and C appear nearly nude on television? By choice? I'm not judging her for this so much as attempting to put the comparative behaviors in perspective, as far as discretion is concerned.

    Charles and Diana had common friends and acquaintances all their lives. Diana was christened
    in a royal family church. It was an arranged marriage. Hardly a whirlwind courtship.
    Despite the commonalities, the marriage failed, partly because of lack of equal commitment
    by both. As I said, measuring love can be tricky. Short courtships have been known to produce long, happy marriages. But not in the royal family, without a common history. That takes a huge amount of adjustment, usually over time.
    I think the couple have made an excellent start by hopefully just spending time together
    in a stable domestic situation. I'm glad Harry brought his girl home. I hope they stay.
    After awhile, she'll become a familiar face and old news.
    The furor will likely settle on Kate once again.
    I hope those who so vigorously defended Harry's love will give the same consideration to
    Williams's in future.

    Your last sentence...turn it around. If Kate were a dark-haired American WOMAN with a non-white parent, would you still take every chance to devalue her? No one else on this site, gives a flip what box her Mum checks on the census.No one else brought this subject back up. I thought this topic had been shut down. I suppose it will be again, starting with my comment.

    I think there is a need on all sides for understanding and compassion. I've had my fill of partisanship and nastiness.

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  36. When it comes to sex the Windsors almost always make bad decisions. I hope this doesn't turn into a Sarah Ferguson disaster.

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