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Zara Tindall Has Suffered a Miscarriage

Saturday, December 24, 2016

Christmas Eve is not off to a good start. News broke today that Zara Tindall suffered a miscarriage. The Queen's granddaughter was pregnant with her second child and had only announced the happy news a month ago.


At the same time the "news" broke that neither William nor Harry turned up for the annual soccer game at Castle Rising. According to The Express, disappointed villagers dispersed after
it became clear no royals would be making an appearance. William was never going to show up since he is in Bucklebury, but I suspect Harry's absence was due to the tragic news the royals had just announced. 


This year there was an extra push to recognize the emotional difficulties that surround losing a child. The grief inherent in the actual loss and then anxiety and worry that accompanies subsequent pregnancies are both concerns. I Googled around and found a quick article that highlighted this point:
Emotional effects of miscarriage vary among women and often take longer to heal than their physical counterparts. It's common to experience extreme sadness, anger, guilt and anxiety about future pregnancies. There is no "typical" timeframe for emotional recovery; every woman experiences the grieving process in her own way and travels the road to healing at her own pace.
I am so saddened by this morning's announcement. On a weekend that celebrates the birth of Jesus, it seems especially sad to lose your own child, but I hope that the miracle that is Christmas will still bring hope. Prayers for Zara and her family. I hope she heals quickly in body and heart. 

31 comments:

  1. Terrible, terrible news. Could it possibly relate to HM trip delay?

    "...William was never going to show up... " He has actually been sighted in Bucklebury, then? I believe he would have foregone the game anyway and is just as saddened as Harry,who was reported to be on his way to the US to spend Christmas with Meghan. Probably just as much a rumor as the Cambridge plans, however.

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    1. According to Lord Howard, quoted in the Telegraph, neither Harry nor William were scheduled to appear in the rugby match this year. The crowd began to leave when it
      started to rain. Apparently, other plans were made well before the news of their cousin's sad loss.

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    2. Football (soccer), not rugby.

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    3. Anon1 I heard the rumors that Harry is leaving Boxing Day to head to see Meghan in the US. A lot of rumors...will see if any pictures surface of either brother to let us know what they're up to :-)

      ~ A

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  2. I am so sorry to read this. Poor Zara and Mike. It's an awful thing for a family to go through. I had three miscarriages myself and each one effected me differently. Harry and William have always been close to Zara so I'm sure Harry was not in the soccer playing mood.

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  3. It's just not possible to heal quickly from a miscarriage--it is always with you. So sorry for her.

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  4. These are really sweet comments you made, Jane. It is sad news indeed.
    Karin

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  5. My heart broke for them, like my heart would break for anyone. I wonder if we will see her on Christmas Day (tomorrow). She is a tough, strong woman - she is Anne's daughter and a professional athlete. However, she is human and I would understand if she didn't want to be seen publicly. Or if she does, maybe she will ride with the Queen again. We'll find out soon enough.

    At 35 Zara probably has that in mind, too. Many "older" women have healthy pregnancies and kids, but it does become more of a limitation. Regardless of what life has in store for the Tindalls I wish them happiness with the many blessings they do have!

    ~ A

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  6. I have suffered and know the pain too well. My thoughts are with her and her family.

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  7. Such sad news, at any time, and especially at Christmas. I hope that Zara and her husband, Mike will find support and love together, and from their families. My heart goes out to them.

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  8. Terrible news indeed. My thoughts are with Zara and her husband. And I sincerely hope that they are given the opportunity to deal with it in private.

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  9. I suffered a miscarriage once, over a much-wanted first child; happily, I had a terrific doctor who explained the dynamics to me, and which left no room for emotional trauma. He stated that 1/3 of women experienced a miscarriage over their reproductive years and put it down, for the most part, to Mother Natures way of culling those who were in some way, severely disabled.

    I have never investigated further; no need to--my next two pregnancies were successful.

    I left his office feeling grateful--my husband and I could never have properly taken care of a disabled child. ($$$$). He had instantly cured me of any psychological trauma, and the physical trauma was negligible.

    So, forgive me if I am not dripping with sympathy over Zara's miscarriage; she knows very well that she can reproduce; I am saving my sympathy for those who can't.

    JC

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    1. No comment might have been a kinder response.

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    2. The last JC comment I will read or respond to. I sincerely hope others show you more kindness in difficult times than you seem capable of. True colors indeed.

      It doesn't matter the "logic" - her baby was real and was already loved and envisioned as a living breathing part of their world. Her grief is real and raw and unimaginable.

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    3. JC, I must say that your reasoning is off and insensitive. I suffered a miscarriage on my first pregnancy as well. That was followed by a successful pregnancy but I miscarried the next two. It was devastating each and every time. It is not always an unhealthy fetus that causes the miscarriage. In my case it was scar tissue caused by PED followed by chronic endometriosis. Eleven surgeries later I had to have a hysterectomy and settled for my one, perfect daughter. As much as I love my daughter I still mourn the loss of those babies all these years later. Zara and Mike have all the sympathy I can possibly send their way because, if you've truly been there, you know what they're feeling.

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    4. The underlying idea in you comment, JC, that disabled people are better dead than alive is disturbing. Life is precious and our "challenged" brothers and sisters should be cherished just as deeply as the healthy.


      My sympathies to Zara. Heart wrenching.

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    5. How awful. A little sympathy and kindness goes a long way. Who are we to judge how people should feel? My sympathies to Zara and Mike.

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    6. That is truly insensitive JC...your comment makes me even sadder. Compassionate responses from others.

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    7. Perhaps JC deserves our understanding, too. We all deal differently with personal grief. Sometimes it lies closer to the surface than we would like and bursts forth,
      in spite of our efforts, all the stronger for being held so tightly.
      We all have our triggers, many of which have been displayed here.
      I'm sure her words spoke more of JC's grief than Zara's and that no unkindness was meant.

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    8. What an awful thing to say. Have you considered that Zara announced her pregnancy a month ago and was likely well into her second trimester? The attachment to a growing baby is real and cannot be reasoned away. Sympathy is not a finite resource, JC.

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    9. Some early miscarriages are undoubtedly due to fetal genetic abnormalities or randoms errors in cell division early on. It is my understanding that in those cases the abnormalities often aren't of the sort that could have produced what we call a "disability" (like trisomy 21/Down syndrome) but more likely are of the sort that produce effects incompatible with life. Since the time research conclusively demonstrated the role these severe abnormalities MAY play in SOME miscarriages I think some treating (i.e., non-research) physicians have oversold the explanation--- perhaps in a well-meaning effort to alleviate the guilt their patients may feel. Of course most miscarriages aren't because of anything the woman did but that doesn't stop the guilt feelings. And for many, the "abnormality" explanation doesn't alleviate the sense of loss. But in the past physicians often didn't deal with or necessarily even acknowledge the loss aspects but they did hear the "why did this happen" questions.

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    10. lizzie-an intelligent, thoughtful, and kind explanation.I can tell you that you are 100% correct from the medical standpoint. There are a number of causes, including viruses and severe malnutrition.
      I wish your comment could be emblazoned on the walls of every obstetrician. I think midwives/nurses may more often understand the need to consider seriously a woman's feelings of loss and failure. Something only time and understanding can heal.

      Certainly the perceived roles of physician versus midwife/nurse may encourage this attitude but if the doctor is too busy or otherwise prevented, someone must make sure all the mother's healing needs are met.

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    11. Obviously, Nature doesn't consider Down and spinal bifida fetuses a mistake as many are born and treasured by their families. So many advances have been made for treatment and life-enhancement.
      It Is a long hard road, no doubt about that. Some parents are better-equipped emotionally and physically to manage than others. It should never be a question of
      not getting proper care due to financial considerations.However, we live in the real world.

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    12. I also sufeed a miscarriage this year right before Christmas. It is devastating at a time when I was celebrating my much wanted second child and was planning to announce to family amd friends (12 week ultrasound showed no heartbeat on Dec 21st) instead I'm sitting here waiting for my body to catch up and realize that the baby's heart stopped 4 weeks ago.

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    13. Oh, lj, this was so terribly sad to read. I am so sorry. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I hope God sends you another little one when you are ready. Not to take the place of the baby you lost, but to lighten your heart. Sending hugs. Jane

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    14. The nastiness of some of the women here is astonishing. Just when I think it can't get any uglier, somebody like JC comes along.

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    15. lj, I am so very sorry and sad for you. I know there are no words enough for comfort but pray for your peace of mind and a complete recovery of good health to your body. :-(

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    16. LJ just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss and that I hope you take as much time and patience as you need to heal. I experienced two missed miscarriages myself and on top of everything else it can be so frustrating to wait for your body to catch up. I took some comfort in knowing that my whole being right down to my cell structure was determined to hold on to my little ones come hell or high water. Hoping 2017 hold peace and lots of support for you.

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  10. My heart breaks for Zara, Mike and Mia. Hope they can grieve in private. My thoughts and prayers go out to them.
    Oh Jane this is my second try at posting a comment nine tote and sent on this morning but it was not posted. Don't think it went against your rules

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  11. Very sad news indeed. Great job with a sensitive post, Jane.

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  12. Just catching up on the news now and my heart breaks for Zara and her family. It's hard at any time, but holidays can make it harder; every Christmas after this one might remind her of her loss. I lost two babies myself- both happened to be during Kaye's pregnancies so watching her baby bump grow when mine wasn't was sometimes painful and other times heartwarming. There is room for both feeling when dealing with loss. Jane thanks for dealing with this news with such obvious warmth.

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