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Harry & Meghan's Full Engagement Interview

Monday, November 27, 2017

I am pretty sure that BBC aired an edited version of this interview. Here is the full twenty minutes. I have thoughts, but I need to reclaim some of my day here, so that post will have to wait for another time.



I am intersted to hear what you all think. The photo-call in Kensington Palace's Sunken Garden is here, and the first post of the day, with the press releases form KP for William and Kate, and the primary announcement from Clarence House, is here

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  1. I think Harry is his mother's son in so many ways

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    1. I felt that too.. the choice of partner speaks volume about their personality.

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  2. I think the interview went well. Meghan is very relaxed and did a great job. Kate takes the backseat to William, I think because she was much younger at the start of their relationship and she was afraid to lose him. Meghan isn’t scared of losing Harry. I think they adore each other.

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    1. I agree! I loved the moment when she said that when their friend wanted to set them up, her first question was "Is he NICE? Because if he's not kind..." That's a woman with principles, who knows what she does and doesn't desire. So gorgeous.

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    2. I disagree with the part about Kate afraid of losing William. She never really had an interview before the engaged announcement (from my understanding) and it was her first time being in front of the camera while the world is watching. Meghan did a good job in the interview but keep in mind that her background dealt with a lot of press and interviews and she’s used to it.

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    3. I really really really hope From Berkshire to Buckingham doesn't become a snake pit of pitting these two women against each other. They are DIFFERENT. Just different people with different personalities. I am a huge Kate and William fan. I respect them and see myself in Catherine, admire her charity work, compassion, standards, personality, etc. I also like Meghan a lot but they are just so different and in such different places. But I have to disagree on your statement about Kate being afraid of losing William. What does that even mean? They were together for 10 years, they seemed very stable. I just can't stand the snarky speculation and I hope it doesn't push me away from this amazing blog that Jane works so very hard on.

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    4. I just got off the phone from talking with my mom about my concerns that the Kate/Meghan debate could cause real strife. I'm underwater closing up my school semester, but I hope to address it over the holiday season. This blog won't feature much of Meghan (unless she is with Kate) once we get through the excitement of the wedding, but even so, I can see potentially rocky waters. Anyway, a discussion for another time.

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    5. I like both Kate and Meghan but I sensed a different dynamic in their relationship vs. William and Kate.

      I wasn’t being snarky. But Meghan seems much more relxed and self assured than Kate even at Kate’s age now. It’s just an observation. Remember when Kate told William, something like, I’m finally in charge for once, when she was helping him climb up something? Yes, it was a joke but I think it had a little truth to it.

      William is the power in their relationship, Meghan and Harry seem more on equal footing. I see this in my friends and family too. It is not a putdown at all.

      Alex - I love Kate. This was an observation about their differences, Harry and William’s differences too. Not an attack or a veiled attack.

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    6. 1:37,

      Yes! I loved that too.:)

      1:12

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    7. We will restrain ourselves, Jane! Promise. 😘

      1:12

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    8. I think Megan is the power in their relationship... Harry is even blushed as a teenager....

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    9. Yes, Meghan seems rather... dominant

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    10. Hi totally didn't take the comment as a negative one or pitting the women against each other. I think we can compare for reference without saying one is bad or one is good. I love Kate and enjoy Meghan, too. I think it's natural to point our differences between the two as a frame of reference to understand their unique styles without passing judgement. It's not a zero sum game between Kate and Meghan. That's exactly how I read the comment and agree. Thanks for the great work Jane!

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    11. 3:00,

      No, I didn’t find her dominant or pushy. Just relaxed and self assured. She was very loving and kind with Harry. They were equals with an easy ebb and flow. One takes the lead, then the other takes the lead....

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    12. 3:00, I tend to agree and this was not the moment for it.

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    13. I agree about Meghan coming off as dominant, and I think that might be because she's had to really be a fighter of sorts in her life. She's lived a very independent life from her family (celebrating holidays with friends, supporting herself financially after school, living in different cities for much of her adult life). Kate has always been in the cradle of incredible family support (not that Meghan didn't have support), but Kate has always been physically close to her family as well as emotionally + financially, and sort of nestled in their embrace, per se. But, one thing I like about Kate is that she's more or less maintained the same style all her life, which tells me that she is very confident in herself and knows her self-worth, even if she's not as overt or polished in the public eye as Meghan in that regard. In short - I would have loved to have grown up a Middleton and have the same polish as Meghan. :-)

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    14. I realize my comment came off as a judgment in the initial comment. That was not my intention. Sorry! I shouldn't have posted here specifically. I was discussing broader thoughts I had watching the entire Royal watching community respond, and frankly working through my own thoughts as Harry adds a new player to a very tight group. My reflections, which I should have kept to myself at this juncture, werent aimed at this particular post. As I say, sorry for the confusion.

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    15. I agree that Meghan seems to be the more dominant/power partner of the 2. Its almost as if Harry is a bit scared of losing her. But also take into account that she is very comfortable in front of cameras and in interviews etc because of her profession and the world she has done for the UN.

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    16. Anon 2:48 I think it's hard to draw conclusions about their relationship from this one interview. It could be that Meghan is more dominant but it could also be that in this particular context she was the more experienced and comfortable - and so did the work of "leading" in in the situation just as Harry might "lead" in a formal royal appearance (just as William helped Kate learn the ropes on walkabouts). She is quite literally a professional when it comes to interviews and Harry is not.

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    17. I haven't had much of an opinion as this relationship developed, but now that I see her with Harry, she seems like a very sweet, down to earth woman. I disagree that she is dominating him. She's in the public in a very different way than Harry is. She's a confident young woman, an actress accustomed to talking about and promoting herself, her newest project, etc. It comes natural to her. Not saying it doesn't for Harry, but, while Harry is also in the public eye, I'd say it's in a much different way. The focus (other than by tabloids and the odd personal interview) isn't on HIM. It's on his work the RF and his patronages (right word?). Not in a "commercial" way, if you get what I mean.

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    18. It's a shame how women talk about each other. She was extroverted and lovely.

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    19. I only speak about "non verbal communication", I don't understand "oral" English, but I'm a psychologist..
      Maybe "dominant" is not the correct word, always in a couple one of them is more "confident" or "predominant" that's the rol playing .... which doesn't mean anything.....or everything....it depends on what for...

      Anon 2:48

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    20. Also, I reckon that British are shyer than Americans and its Monarchy overall..
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    21. I thought Meghan was amazing, confident And articulate and yes very relaxed with the camera and I think Harry appreciates that and loves her ease And life experience in this public sphere. I think she is excellent for Harry and the are delightful and in love and very very cute!!!!!! She rocked it. This has made my entire day happy & I toasted the happy couple with an organic kombucha in Queensland Australia!! I love Meghan’s confidence and yes she had a lot to say but she also paused a lot and Harry spoke as much.
      Theresa Australia

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    22. Harry was very anxious moreover, he blinked non-stop, blushed himself and struggled breathing.....

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  3. I'm delighted for them both and wish them every happiness. Diana would have been so proud of Harry.

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  4. I think they are great. And will shake things up. Both were very nervous. She responded with chatter and he fell silent...

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    1. That's the way I read it, anon 1:26. She's been anticipating this day since at least the June VF interview. She was very stoked and excited. With good reason. Even Kate fans were bouncing off the walls, some of them. Just imagine sitting there with Harry and talking about the Queen as your fiancé's grandmother, Diana, one of the most charismatic and photographed women in modern history as his Mother, and speaking of Diana's sisters as "your aunts" to your fellow. Heady stuff.
      Plus the relief from the tension of the past 15-18 months..."maybe a little more," said Harry. There were a few awkward moments when that subject came up....(I do think there' s more to the timing of the relationship than we are being told, but it is none of anyone's business, anyway)
      Plus, Harry's growing up as he did in the royal family and the circumstances of his Mother's death and Father's remarriage and from what he has actually shared...he did not come from an environment where feelings were openly shared. He is learning, since his involvement in Heads Together and other efforts of the Foundation. Meghan, on the other hand, had a psychology-trained Mother, a show business background, and in short, was encouraged to NOT hold back thoughts and feelings.
      Harry said something that sounded like he was relieved to have someone to share the burden and take over in some areas. I don't think Meghan is taking the lead away from Harry; I think he handed to her. I don't know how many times the word "team" was mentioned, but I do think a pretty good game of "Hi Bob" could be played with the word team in that interview...the one where everyone chug a lugs with every mention of Bob on the old Bob Newhart show. (does ANYONE else remember that game?)

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  5. They both present beautifully - very warm, well spoken, delighting in each other.
    I'm so happy for Prince Harry 💜
    Thanks for sharing this. I will admit to shedding a year 💜

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    1. If I watch it 20 times...anon 1:27 ;+)

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    2. Love the hearts, Carolyn! Purple is my fav.

      BTW, do people mistakenly call you Caroline a lot? Carolyn is a family name but she always gets mistaken for Caroline and it drives her crazy. I think it's because of Caroline Kennedy.

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  6. Thanks Jane for getting the entire interview up so fast. I really enjoyed it. They were so relaxed and natural together. Meghan is just lovely and so charming. She is also very articulate and at ease in front of the camera. I think they will be a great team and asset to the Firm.

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  7. She seems so self-assured and yet respectful of Harry's family. I would like to know more about her green dress.

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  8. Wow what a power couple, so in love and so much in common with their humanitarian interests, all the best to them both. Looking forward to following their future together!

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  9. They are so obviously in love.
    I was pleased to hear that she has been welcomed by all the family and particularly they mentions how wonderful Catherine has been.
    I think both Diana and Charles's sons have chosen well.

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    1. I agree. Love them both and so happy that Harry's family has been welcoming.

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    2. I was surprised that Meghan talked so much ,rather than allowing Harry to take the lead,since he is Royal. She should be more demure and proper,respecting Harry as Royalty. They're not married yet
      .I know she is a actress and knows what to say and put her self first but that's not how things work in the Monarchy. She needs to be quieter and more reserved. Kate has much more style and class by not being so outspoken and putting herself out front.

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  10. They are so sweet! I love it. Cant wait to see her life as a royal. They seem so happy and in love. How cute was Harry when the interviewer said she'd be getting a husband? And she seems so charmed by him. I hope they will be this happy together forever.

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  11. They both seem very much in love and she seems very good for him, good counterpoint to the way he grew up and raised. I wish them both happiness and success and can't wait to see some babies.

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  12. It is delightful to hear directly from them, how they met and fell in love. The security they have on their relationship and their plans to confront any challenges of their future together, but mainly see them so in love. No more negative comments allowed after hearing from them in person confirming how they felt that love right away. So Congratulations, much happiness as husband and wife and keep enjoying each other as you do now.

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  13. Why would Meghan only take one of her dogs with her to the UK and leave the other one "with friends" in Canada?? I could never leave my dog (and it was clearly no problem to take dogs to England as she took her other one)!
    I so sorry but this is all I can think about now... her pour dog must be so confused and sad and lonely that his owner/mommy AND his fur sibling are gone, he is in a new environment and with new people :(

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    1. The other dog is coming. She clearly is a warm, loving person so I think something else is going on that we don’t know. Medical issue, weight limit on dog, etc.

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    2. I caught that too and in my mind I'm thinking that one of the pooches will remain with friends and the other one made the cut. Otherwise, why the delay? Clearly, things had to be arranged some time ago so why not for both dogs? Maybe the dog is old or there are training/health issues?

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    3. Sonja, it may not be a new environment for the dog at all. Perhaps the dog is with Meghan's close friends and has already spent a lot of time with them.

      Some dogs have anxiety issues and don't travel well, etc. This could be the best arrangement. We don't have all the info, so I don't think we should judge Meghan.

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    4. Possibly it's a breed restriction dog. I have one (pitbull).

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    5. Do we know which one she took? I know one is older, and the stress of quarantine might have been too much? I think she's been leaving them with friends over the past year as she's traveled to be with Harry, so perhaps that dog is already all settled in and she didn't want to disrupt his life again?

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    6. I agree regarding the concern. But when taking animals from the US to the UK they have to pass tests etc. Maybe he is still in the process and he will be going over soon or maybe he wasn't able to pass. However, you would still think that he could go into quarantine and reunited with her at a later date.

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    7. She is bringing over the second dog, he's just not there yet. I think we can all agree she's a good dog mom. There must be a reason for this.

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    8. I suspect it was because she was splitting her time. This way she had a dog in each location. I've done that. Now that she will be at KP full time she can bring the remaining dog over

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    9. My dog hyperventilated the whole trip. She also had continency issues she never had at home. It was horrible for her and exhausting for me. Now she is too old to travel. She is a Border Collie mix.
      She brought the smaller and I think younger dog over at some point. I believe the other is older and looks like a Golden Lab mix. Wonderful dispositions. I had one and he was super laid back and friendly. The Queen loves dogs. I can't see immigration details or transportation arrangements being much of an issue.

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    10. Royalfan I think saying a dog didn’t make the cut is a little harsh :-) I’m inclined to agree with Jay that one is probably quite old or has health issues or anxiety issues and she did what she thinks is best for the dog. I’m sure it was a hard decision for her and that she reminds herself of why she did it and that her dog has a loving home.
      ~ A

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    11. ~A, I didn't intend for it to sound that way. :-) I'm an animal lover and believe in putting their needs first and determining what's best for them. Also, if they traveled as much as the interview revealed and she would go straight to the studio when she landed, we know that someone else was taking care of the dogs on a regular basis.

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    12. Maggie - MinneapolisNovember 27, 2017 at 9:50 PM

      There is no reason to think that Meghan would just be okay with her dog perhaps feeling abandoned without good reason. She has demonstrated nothing less than adoration for both dogs from well before she ever met Harry. Perhaps she has left one dog in the care of a friend up until now and/or for the near future because that dog has reasons for really needing stability to thrive. As royalfan has said, with so much travel, maybe it made sense from early in the relationship to not unfairly upend the dog's life constantly and make it full of instability and instead lend/give the dog to a trusted friend who had the logistical ability of providing some necessary stability and/or possibly needed extra care. Or maybe Nottingham Cottage isn't the best setup for the dog bc it needs a real yard with freedom to run around and while Nott Cott has its own enclosed garden, it may not be sufficient.
      Let's also not forget - Meghan just got engaged, moved to another country, and also was announced as officially a future royal-to-be and introduced to an entire, unfamiliar nation as a future representative of it for the first time officially...all in the span of 3, maybe 4 weeks. That's a LOT for any person to be handling at once. Frankly between moving to England just last week and announcing the engagement this week, I would find it pretty impressive if she's managed to find the time to even unpack completely yet lol. So she may have made the tough decision that she cannot also take on the added stress and time of acclimating both dogs to a huge move and new home, esp if the one dog maybe takes some time and effort to get adjusted to change and/or has health concerns. So she may just want to wait a bit or perhaps has made the tough decision that it may never work to bring the dog to the UK. Or haha it's possible that the dog may not have ever gotten along with Harry lolol. This is a nightmare of mine in regards to my pets not getting along with a potential future serious significant other and having to pick one of them, even though I don't even know who the significant other would be or even if they will exist :P.

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  14. Hmm...thoughts. Well, here goes! My impression was that Meghan is quite articulate, at ease in this interview, and that she, rather than he, carried it--the latter in marked contrast to W&K's engagement interview, when William obviously placed himself in charge. I also got the feeling that they were in love, especially in Harry's case. (The guy is "moonstruck".)

    I didn't watch the actual interview on this site, but I did catch it twice on CBC--Canadian Broadcasting Corp.-- and in it I noted that when discussing Meghan's introduction to Harry's relatives, Harry made it clear that Kate had welcomed his girlfriend, warmly...then tacked on William, too.

    Generally, I was reasonably impressed, both with Meghan and their obvious spontaneity...well, at least until I asked my hubby for his impressions, having expressed my own. He wasn't as impressed and reminded me that Meghan was an actress. Okay, enuf said except to reiterate that, of the two, I was left with the impression that Meghan was quite articulate and that she, not he, carried the interview--meaning, that she did the majority of the talking.

    Meghan was also prettier on video than in the pics I've seen, altho I felt the same way about Kate, in her engagement interview. I can remember turning to my hubby and remarking that if the Royal gig didn't work out for Kate, there was always Hollywood. This leaves me with an unfortunate sense that photographers who follow the BRF aren't given to portray true images, a whole new kind of lying to the public: first via the written word, now extended to photographs.

    My first impressions, in a nutshell, and subject to change as I think it over.

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    1. JC I have to go with your hubby on this one. For some reason her reactions seem a little false to me (which probably is not quite the right wording either). I am not making a claim that she is not in love with him, but as you say, he seems quite obviously "moonstruck", and that really cannot be hidden. However, I just don't get the same from Meghan. I cannot quite put my finger on why I feel this way, its just a gut thing.

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    2. I feel the same ! It is almost a gut feeling. Something was off?

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    3. For me, the interview was a lot of *personal* information and it overpowered them as a ROYAL COUPLE going forward. Details are sweet and romantic, but there's no long term substance in knowing what they were doing when he popped the question.

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    4. Perdon por escribir en español, pero así me explico mejor...
      Creo que a Meghan no le creí todo, fue por que veo su show de Suit, y ahí hace los mismos tonos de voz o pone la misma mirada, o se emociona igual, y solo por eso en un momento dado pensé que estaba actuando..
      Aunque cabe aclarar que estoy ansiosa por ver que este trio ahora es cuarteto entre en acción

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  15. Has anyone else noticed a change in her eyes in the first seconds of the video when the interviewer starts the sentence with 'His royal highness, Meghan Markle..' To me it was like for a second she thought she was being called a title (maybe she misheard 'HER Royal Highness ..Meghan Markle')
    I am absolutely in awe of her professional way of handling press.
    They are annoyingly happy :D They have earned it!!
    Congrats!

    Alice

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    1. Had to go back and look, but I see what you mean about the eyes. Funny.

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    2. Yes I did see that right at the beginning of the interview.

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  16. I like them both, but was a little disappointed. I thought she came off as too eager to talk about their relationship. It seems like every question she had to have a say: if he answered, she had to add something, whereas he was more restrained. I also thought she didn't seem very genuine, almost as if the cameras came on and she switched to professional mode, saying the "right" thing, acting the "right" way, which, while entirely understandable given her professional background, was not really appropriate for this. The giggling and shy/demure smiles were a bit too much for me, given her age and experience (I'm the same age). But, maybe I'm wrong and this is just who she is, like Jennifer Lopez in her interviews, who just seems like a helpless romantic at heart and is not acting at all. Definitely more confident and comfortable than him, which is actually fun to see, and the opposite of William and Kate. I think she will be just fine in Harry's world, I just hope they are all fine with her being so confident and unfazed by the royals.

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    1. Implying that her emotions didn’t seem genuine? I imagine anyone in her situation (and she’s likely better prepared than most) would find it challenging to be completely at ease knowing that every comment would be highly scrutinized. The seeking fame and fortune idea doesn’t really wash as she already had that, albeit at a less scale. Don’t bite my head off (I have a lot of respect for Kate and very much enjoy following her fashion), but for the sake of argument, college kid Kate Middleton is much believably cast as a notoriety seeker than mid-thirties successful actress Meghan Markle. To my mind, subjecting yourself (and any future children) to spending your life under a magnifying glass where any oops or breech in protocol will be captured by the world’s media, could only be outweighed by having a partner that you couldn’t imagine living your life without.

      I thought she was very well spoken, and yes she talked more than Harry, but he’s been giving interviews for years and this, to me, was an opportunity for the populous to get to know her a bit. I think it’s unfair and rather counterproductive to compare Kate and Meghan or their relationships with the Wales boys. They’re both a breath of fresh air in the Royal Family for different reasons.

      On a fashion note, the shoes seemed out of place with the coat and for the season. From the bit I’ve seen, my fashion loyalties still lay with Kate.

      Jane, I’m glad that you’re not planning to divide your attention. Someone else can pick up the torch, with “From Hollywood to Holyrood” maybe??

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    2. I agree. I think she tried to downplay that she didn't know much about Prince Harry to appear like less of a social climber but to think she didn't look him up online and know quite a bit about him before their first date is unbelievable. She is no fool.

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    3. I agree. I think she tried to downplay that she didn't know much about Prince Harry to appear like less of a social climber but to think she didn't look him up online and know quite a bit about him before their first date is unbelievable. She is no fool.

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    4. Dani, I totally agree with what you have said. I too feel that Meghan has been eager to talk too much, and that in of itself doesn't really feel right with me. I agree the giggling and her interaction with Harry also didn't feel right to me for some reason that I cannot quite pinpoint right now. It seems a little too put on or pushed for me. Not sure why though.

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    5. God forbid a woman speak KiwiNic.. I truly hope the BRF is never subjected to a female monarch who had thoughts and shares them.

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    6. Dani thank you for your honest description. I love this woman and this is who she is, but I agree the interview could have been a little more polished. What can we say? She's on cloud nine! I'd be too!

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    7. @Gina: What I meant as not genuine was her demeanor, not her intentions with Harry. I agree with you, she doesn't really have any reason to want to be a part of the royal family. I do think they are both madly in love. It just felt to me that she was trying too hard to behave a certain way, and maybe it was even unconscious. I really like her and admire all she's accomplished. And she looked (and is) absolutely stunning.

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  17. Ohhh, boy. I realize that I'm in the minority here, but this is my honest response to the question posed in this post...

    I thought Meghan talked over Harry far too much. Given the format and circumstances, I would certainly understand the odd pause or both of them attempting to speak at the same time, but she appeared a bit too anxious to document her version of events. And for Meghan to suggest that she wasn't familiar with Harry and was only concerned with him being a nice guy. Okay, but that also implies that she was unaware of his charity work which is quite odd given her own interests, no? Or perhaps she was going out of her way to downplay any possible suggestion of social climbing and it backfired.

    Call me old fashioned but, overall, I felt uncomfortable for Harry. HE is the royal prince and she is the new kid on the block, in more ways than one (new country, culture, institution). While I think (and hope!) that their *personal* relationship is balanced and they have mutual respect for each other, I do believe that this was not Meghan's moment to audition for the lead. And is it now okay to refer to the Queen as "she"? Isn't she still HM or The Queen under these circumstances?

    I realize the gal is being commended for her confidence, but one can be confident and still remain cautious and humble. It's about *judgment*, and not confidence alone.

    My bottom line... I truly hope that Harry is as happy as William appears to be in his personal life, but I have had some concerns and this interview served to confirm one or two of them.

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    1. I agree with you, royalfan. I made a comment below and was much less blunt because I didn't want to deal with any repercussions but I was shocked at how much of the conversation she dominated. She was very very eager to talk. It was somewhat uncomfortable to watch.

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    2. I agree with your thoughts, though I must say, after watching this morning's interview--I see that Meghan is very articulate and well-spoken and confident--I like that. I can see why they match up. However, I did cringe a few times when she spoke over him. And when the topic of The Queen arose I sort of had a sense that she would muck it up a bit, which she successfully did by referring to HM as SHE and HER. LOL, well...hey...what can you do? I'm an American, right around her age, and maybe I only know better because The Royal Family has always been a part of my life and something I take a lot of interest in. But overall, she was sweet. I'm sure with time she will be groomed, though I was a bit surprised that it seems she hasn't had much grooming thus far in the past few weeks.

      Perhaps being 5th in line to the throne allows for a bit more lax sort of behavior? Who knows. But maybe their relationship will be more (and I hate to put it in this term) equal footing. Not to say William and Catherine aren't equals, but I think they play more by the rules, which granted, Meghan probably knows very little about. Plus, she seems like an outspoken woman in general, I'm sure it will take time to develop and hone the skill of communicating in a way that expresses her viewpoint while minding her role and duty. Come to think of it, I think part of her assuredness comes from her age...she is 35, i think? She is entering this life at the beginning at the same age Catherine is now with several years of marriage and children under her belt. So I gently disagree with a previous poster who stated Catherine was afraid to lose William, or that William is in the power position of their relationship. No, I think the Duchess was simply younger and hadn't had all those extra years of life out in the world as Meghan has had up to this point.

      I'll be quite curious to see how things play out and in her royal grooming, how much she is willing to abide/adhere to protocol.

      They do seem really nice together and definitely in love. But one thing I found funny was when Harry mentioned their five days camping under the stars and how crucial it was in sort of sealing their fate. While traveling together is a great way to get to know someone quickly...I just found it sort of comical how five days solidified so much. Obviously there are so many other layers, and I'm certain these two adults know what they are doing, but I thought it was funny.

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    3. Royalfan, thank you. You expressed my thoughts perfectly. I am not British (nor American) but I also felt uncomfortable for Harry and a little embarrassed on behalf of the RF and the British people. Too coy and not shy enough IMO. But they are clearly happy and in love.

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    4. I agree with all you say. Plus, given that this is an interview in the UK, she should have followed his lead on how to behave. It just plays to the bad stereotypes of Americans being oblivious to other cultures and customs, which can come off as arrogant. If the interview was for an American outlet, I think it would have been fine for her to take the lead.

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    5. Meghan answered questions BUT she was poised, gracious, and thoughtful throughout. She did not step on Harry (so to speak) whatsoever. I think that's really taking it too far.

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    6. Royalfan I am Team H&M, because I want Harry to be happy and have stability and someone to love & care for him. I’m still very impressed with her in many ways. HOWEVER I agree that she talked over him too often and cut him off too much. A couple times she was sitting there with her mouth open while he spoke, waiting for her opportunity to jump in - that kinda made me cringe and feel a bit embarrassed for them. BUT my grandma was like that with my grandpa and they were madly in love for decades and died a few weeks apart. We can judge but we don’t know the inner workings of their relationship today or in the future.
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    7. I love Harry and I really, really want him to be happy and have a beautiful family live with a lady he loves. So I really, really want to love Meghan, but there has been a niggle from day one. I don't know why, or what, I can't put my finger on it - it is just one of those feelings that will not go away. However, seeing them today warmed my heart and I am going to put aside my negativity and wish them all the very best and hope that they have a wonderful future together.

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    8. Royalfan, totally agree with everything you have stated. She seems a bit too keen. I do find it a stretch to believe that there was no way she knew who he was and about the royal family. Hopefully he is not too enamoured.

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    9. Faith, yes, I've been blunt once, maybe twice, before. ;-)


      Stephanie, without a doubt H&M will be in a different position compared to W&K. Two different couples with very different roles.


      Yes, 4:38, I agree.


      Dani, exactly right. This was not a Barbara Walters interview in Hollywood. Meghan is on Harry's "turf" and should have allowed him to take the lead.


      5:13, being gracious means having good manners (judgment). Some of us do not believe that today was the best example. It's wonderful to have confidence, but the way you *apply* it makes all the difference.


      7:35, I *am* in Harry's corner and want him to enjoy a happy family life. I have no issue with whatever "balance" may work for them behind closed doors. But in a setting where Meghan was being introduced to the world as Harry's fiancée (and in HIS zip code), well, I would have recommended decaffeinated coffee to start the day.

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    10. Maggie - MinneapolisNovember 27, 2017 at 10:56 PM

      Somewhere throughout the world there are a lot of feminists rolling over in their graves due to a lot of the things said this thread. I thought we were past thinking women should not be "too coy and not shy enough". Or that it's not okay for women to dominate men in relationships, including being the ones to retain control in a conversation or interview. As some of you have even said, it would be okay if it was the other way around, with Harry taking control and Meghan in the backseat. I don't want to be rude, and obviously I cannot know anyone's intent, but any time people criticize a woman for doing something while saying the man doing it would be fine and/or acceptable, I don't think it's unfair to say that there are some real sexist undertones even if not meant that way. Now of course the royal family is based in a lot of ideals that cannot entirely avoid the charge of sexism without fundamentally changing and transformation, for example the pressure and expectation of royal women to produce heirs, and the thought of that as their most important role above all else. Or that the Queen's own daughter was forced to come after her younger brothers and their children in the line of succession simply because she was a girl, and that even the Queen as the longest-reigning monarch ever only ever ascended to the throne because of her lack of brothers but as such was never considered the certain heir during her time as Princess bc until one of her parents died, there was always a chance of a brother being born and taking over as heir to the throne. Thankfully this is one royal norm done away with finally, but it took a long time, and longer than most other still-existing monarchies did to change to valuing females equally to men in the line of succession. There's also the fact that female blood royals cannot transfer their title to a spouse when getting married, whereas male royals do get to do so with their titles. Or that as a son, despite being a few rungs down generationally speaking, Prince George would always have received the title of Prince despite being the son of the son of the son of the monarch, whereas if the Queen hadn't issued a specific directive after Charlotte's birth, Charlotte would not have become Princess Charlotte until either Charles or William takes the throne (I can't rmbr which one). Just like the rest of the society, and at this point even more so, the royals have a long history of some really blatant sexism in many of their practices. But that doesn't mean we should criticize any woman who chooses to ignore those norms. So while the ideal stereotype for a perfect princess by marriage is more like Kate than Meghan, it is also a pretty anti-feminist stereotype forced on women, which to be clear is not meant to mean anything bad about Kate, since either she has made an independent choice on her own to focus on being a mother and more "typical" wife for royals, in which case she just happens to fit the model rather being coerced, or there is coercion to play a traditional role as being seen more than being heard as wife of a future king, in which case it's certainly not the fault of her (or any woman) for being forced into upholding problematic gender norms. I digress a bit, but mostly bc I really really do not want this to be interpreted in any way as criticism of Kate. I just think that while she may fit the expectations, and if by choice then that probably does allow peace in the royal family rather than backlash as happened with Diana...and yes it would likely be easier in terms of avoiding potential royal or public backlash if Harry's future wife happened to fit the mold of a quiet, publicly demure princess too, but that is certainly no reason to criticize Meghan for refusing to meet some incredibly sexist royal-related expectations.

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    11. RoyalFan-

      I think your take on the interview today is very outdated. Meghan isn’t the little woman by Harry’s side. She was warm, excited, and lovely. I did not see any of the behaviors you are attributing to her and I think you are projecting your negative feelings about her onto the interview.

      To say Meghan didn’t have good manners today is really silly. I fell bad for you that you are so negative for this lovely couple at such a happy time.

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    12. ~A, I love the reference to your grand parents. I believe H&H relationship is a happy and lasting one. But as RF says, this interview was on another level. We are not interested in them simply because they are a couple in love. She is going to play an institutional role from now on, and she owes that solely and purely to his position, whatever her previous career and merits. She wasn't the star of the interview. IMO she came out as unintentionally arrogant and ignorant.
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    13. If you check put W&K engagement interview, Kate refers too the Queen and she too. Dang!!!

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    14. Something similar happened with Letizia and Felipe of Spain, she had the nerve to interject him, also he was the heir and aired live....She is still remembered for that...

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    15. Royalfan hahaha! Fingers crossed it was adrenaline and excitement and caffeinated coffee, and that in the future she is more respectful of publicly letting him finish what he has to say :-)
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    16. Maggie - MinneapolisNovember 28, 2017 at 5:17 AM

      Meghan may be the new kid on the block when it comes to doing royal duties, or knowing Britain, but I think if anything her interview performance in comparison to Harry, not to mention her successful career in a job requiring and helping further inculcate certain public speaking skills that come in handy when doing things in a jew career of sorts like giving a video interview as part of a royal engagement or other things involving different formats of public speaking including some important parts of being a royal..all of this indicates that it seems unfair to say Meghan is the new kid on the block in regards to something like doing an interview. Even if she is bc obviously the things needing to be said or avoided are different in a royal interview compared to one as an actress. That being said, she is clearly a much more articulate and confident public speaker than pretty much all the royals except maybe Sophie, esp when talking to a member of the press - something Harry, William and Kate are all esp bad at due to distrust. Even if you think she dominated the interview too much, can you really deny that her speaking itself showed that she is someone with more natural poise and ease when it comes to communicating to the public through her own speaking, than almost all British royals when having to talk in public? Given all of the above, & how nervous/tense Harry looked in comparison to "the new kid" during both events, it seems rather sexist to think Meghan needs to learn more about royal life before she can be allowed to "dominate" a conversation that is more about her than anything else anyways, since she is the one really bring introduced, not the guy we've known for decades. But mostly, Meghan just sounded better and much less nervous than Harry, so if we are going to call a woman who built a successful career in a job requiring excellent speaking skills with ability to connect to anyone watching "the new kid" to interviews, then maybe we should also start saying lack of experience is preferable to lots for having superior presentation as a public personality, since all his years as royal didnt seem to prep Harry to not be as very tense as he was esp at the photocall. Nor has it helped him avoid his penchant for impulsively saying (or doing) things that are terrible for the brf's image, such as another interview he did just a few months ago that got so much criticism for his gaffe about no one ever wanting to be King. Also hasn't stopped him from random spiteful acts tow a media he needs. If anything, it seems totally right for Meghan to be the one leading the responses.
      Lastly, while she has acknowledged the difference bw her previous public role acting vs her new public role as a royal, I think it would be silly to expect her to throw out everything she has learned about public relations and speaking as an actor just bc being a BRF member has its differences. She clearly would have picked up many useful tips and skills that can be tweaked to translate well into BRF life, so I don't think she should be going out of her way to defer to Harry with the logic that she is the complete newbie that many other royal fiances began as and cannot trust her own experience in a different field of public relations. Esp given that the royal family has had its share of pr disasters, which show a need fonimprovement like most things in life.
      Im sorry if this post seems rude, Jane, but if so I think I was surprised that this conversation is really happening in the 21st century. I hope it's not too much to publish.

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    17. 3:06 yes, people have not forgotten the snappish " let me finish " of Letizia. And first impressions are very important.

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    18. Maggie, this is not about sexism. I would have felt the same about Charlotte's future husband ( in 20/30 years time) and asked myself "who does he think he is?" It is not about stereotypes, it is about humility and thoughtfulness.

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    19. Maggie, I don't see it as being a case for or against feminism. For me it boils down to manners and judgement with consideration of the time and place. What if Harry dominated an interview in the US as Meghan did in the UK... wouldn't you see that as him being potentially controlling? So how is the opposite scenario seen as a breath of fresh air?

      And as far as the confidence argument is concerned, well, I think confidence can also be conveyed by choosing words wisely, or even choosing to remain silent. Sometimes less is more.

      11.46, no need to feel bad for me. ☺ I have expressed my desire for Harry to be happy on more than one occasion. Here, I gave my opinion of the interview as we were invited to do.



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    20. Maggie, in no way was I dismissing her accomplishments by referring to her as the new kid on the block. As a matter of fact, I specified *new country, culture and institution*. And here I totally agree with 5.36's regarding humility and thoughtfulness. Two important qualities that go the distance and would serve her well in this new chapter of her life.

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    21. What royalfan, anon 3:41 and anon 5:36 said. Just want to make it clear that my comment is not one about gender and women staying in their place. I would have had the same comment, if say, Princess Victoria of Sweden's fiance had talked over her, interrupted or dominated their engagement interview. There is something to be said for taking a half step back when youre the new gal or guy in town.

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    22. Maggie, I agree with you about the tendency towards sexist expectations in some of the comments here. I think they spoke as two nervous, excited people in love, and that means a lot of words falling out all over each other in a gush. Harry did his share of interrupting as well, but it seems like his tendency when nervous is to retreat a little more (very British). Meghan’s tendency, as an American and a professional performer, seems to be to become more outgoing - this is an instinct that even very reserved performers are trained into doing automatically. Whatever nerves you may feel, you’re taught to “use them for your performance.” It certainly isn’t odd that, during her biggest public appearance yet, getting to speak at length about her relationship publicly for the first and likely last time, Meghan would have some nerves and get more gregarious. (That, incidentally, is what I think caused the “off” feeling that other commenters mentioned - just nerves.)


      It also seemed to me that she was feeling protective of Harry, because his nerves make him less open. As someone who obviously adores him, I can imagine she may have wanted to take charge a teensy bit to help him feel more at ease. I don’t know that that works, having been married to a Brit myself, but I applaud the (projected) sentiment!

      ...maybe I should send her Watching The English to help her acclimate better...

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    23. I have to agree with you, royalfan. This is what stood out in the interview for me. I said the same thing below as well. She's in a new universe now and he is the titled royal who should never be usurped. Whether people agree with or like that protocol or not, it is his world she's entering.

      I totally disagree that Catherine was afraid of losing William. They had been together for years! In their engagement interview she was very respectful of protocol and was more cautious and a little shy of the attention she was getting. If anything, I thought the way Meghan kept a firm grip on Harry's hand with both of hers, on her lap, was a sign of either insecurity or possessiveness. It did not look easy and Harry, while obviously besotted with her, looked a bit uncomfortable. I feel like they were both trying to downplay, maybe even gloss over, how quickly their relationship went from 0-100 while living on two separate continents.

      The other thing that stood out was that she said a couple of times that they were going to "change the world" with their work. I found that odd. Those are just some of the thoughts swirling around in my head right now. I need to watch the interview again.

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    24. Wow, it's 2017 and I cannot believe what I'm reading from some PPs on this thread. Harry is the titled royal so Meghan should know her place? She wasn't shy enough? Meghan should have taken a back seat to Harry? Really? I have a young daughter and it saddens me that this attitude of some PPs is still around.

      Perhaps these PPs would have preferred an interview with Harry alone. Or maybe Meghan should have sat next to him for ornamental reasons. I mean, some of you are essentially saying "she didn't know her place". This is sad indeed.

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    25. Why is it that some women are so very quick to jump on anything anybody says as antifeminist? Male or female, interrupting someone or dominating a conversation is just plain rude. It's called manners. She has also *chosen* to marry into an "institution" and, sorry to burst anybody's 21st century, I am woman hear me roar bubble but this is what it's like in Harry's world. As Fergie (the duchess, not the singer) discovered, it can be suffocating and she's not only British, she was raised near the royal family. I worry that, once the bloom is off the rose, Meghan might find the same thing. It may seem all romance and wonder to marry a prince and become a princess but when the rubber really meets the road her American independence may be harder to give up than she thinks. And anyone who thinks things will change once Charles ascends the throne should think again. He may be even more stuffy than Queen Victoria. (The whole Camillagate thing excluded, of course.)

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    26. Robin, need I say that I agree with you 100%?

      For anyone who may be offended by the suggestions I and others have made, my I share something from Google??? :-)

      "When in Rome, do as the Romans do definition. When visiting a foreign land, follow the customs of those who live in it. It can also mean that when you are in an unfamiliar situation, you should follow the lead of those who know the ropes."

      And, yes, it may be 2017, but the world remains a bigger place than me, myself and I.

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  18. So glad they finally made the announcement!! There's going to be some good royal watching for the next five or six months....yay! The ring is GORGEOUS....and how cool to source the main stone from Botswana which is obviously their special place after revealing they have been there twice together with the first being just weeks into their relationship. I think she and Catherine will get along fine. I really don't think the members of the family see an awful lot of each other because all are so busy and have different interests and friends. I do wonder if the two couples will still be under the same charitable trust or if they will break into two separate with a shared interest in mental health. One correspondent made a good case for a possible wedding much earlier than expected. Lots of anticipation ahead!

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  19. I have very little time and really shouldn't be posting but my first impressions of this interview are that
    1. Most of what has been bandied about by the press about this relationship was wrong.

    2. MM is beautiful, intelligent and articulate.

    3. They are crazy in love and she can't wait to be a mom.

    4. She is much more outgoing and talkative than Harry and dominated the conversation. I can't remember an engagement interview in which the fiancee of a royal talked so much. I'd be interested in feedback from British readers as to what their impressions are.

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  20. Well these two are off to a wonderful start. Meghan handled the interview very well, but I'd be shocked if she didn't. She's certainly had practice. She seems down to earth and self-assured which will hold her in good stead. I noted with interest that Harry said that they would put their relationship first - that's also a very good sign that he's taken notes from big brother. Take great care of your relationship first and the rest will be fine. All the very best to Meghan and Harry. I'm glad you won't be dividing your time between a Kate blog and a Meghan blog Jane. I only have time for one royal I'm afraid and Kate is it for me. I relate much more to her than I ever could to Meghan. But Harry and Meghan will have cute kids - no doubt about that!

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    1. Kate for me also! Not that I want to compare them or anything, only I will continue to follow this blog for sure and do not have time for more following! And like Jane, I relate more to Kate, her personality and her fashion.

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    2. Kate for me also! Not that I want to compare them or anything, only I will continue to follow this blog for sure and do not have time for more following! And like Jane, I relate more to Kate, her personality and her fashion.

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    3. Not that it matters, but I don't remember Jane saying this? Maybe I missed it.

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    4. I think she is referring to Jane in Canada, pas moi. Although, as this blog is a testament, I do relate to Kate the Great. :)

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    5. I wonder if you'll change your mind as you see more of Meghan in action Jane, I think she'll be very exciting to watch. You might blog about her more than you think!

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    6. Sorry, it was indeed Jane in Canada I was referring to!

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  21. I think Harry was a bit nervous and worried about Meghan. I think she was being extra relaxed for him, trying to reassure him that she is OK.

    I think they were great together. Happy, happy news!

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  22. I was extremely impressed by Meghan. She is articulate, intelligent, beautiful, and obviously deeply in love. People have been commenting on Meghan being dominant but I saw a shy man with a gregarious fiancee, which seems to suit them both very well. They both look very happy and I wish them both every happiness.

    My only bit of concern is the diamond from Botswana. I worry about African diamonds as they are rarely ethically sourced. I hope that is not the case here.

    Thank you, Jane, for posting the entire interview so readily. It is much appreciated.

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    1. Botswana is not one of the African nations who participate in the mining of blood diamonds. I'm sure Harry would be very aware of where the diamond came from.

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  23. Interesting comments from everyone.........Meghan is articulate and wanted to put her stamp on the interview and put herself there, like others mentioned she is a professional actress/humanitarian so she's not going to sit there and not speak her views. Harry mentioned about if Diana met her they would be 'thick as thieves.....best friends" I think Diana would love both Kate & Meghan equally and be thrilled with both her sons choice of partners. At least we got to know more about Meghan in this new role. Kate and Meghan are very different which is great! This should be enjoyed not compared- I'm sure these two women will be great friends and a strong support for each other. It will only be the tabloids that try to push tensions between the two........Look forward to seeing Meghan blossom in this role and what she brings to the Royal Family / Charitable causes. And great Harry is so happy he deserves it!!!(posted from Australia)

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    1. Anybody want to take bets on how long it takes the tabloids to publish the first article about a "clash" between Kate and Meghan? You know it's going to happen because they can't seem to help themselves when it comes to muckraking.

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    2. Robin, not very long. And that is unfortunate but, as I'm sure you recall, it happened when Sarah married Andrew.

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    3. Yes, I remember it well. What's worse is that the tabloids are even more vicious now. One thing she said that was very smart is that she doesn't read anything anymore, good or bad. Hard not to know though if her friends or family call with a reaction to something they read.

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  24. i think Meghan handled this interview confidently, as you would expect from someone who is used to being in the public eye. I have to say, what I did not think worked was her outfit. The coat looked boxy and the dress pumping out beneath it looked messy. The dress itself just didn’t strike me as the right thing to pick for this event, nor did the shoes. I didn’t care for the individual pieces and I thought the whole look was out of kilter with the sunken garden backdrop. By contrast, Kate picked a dress that flattered her and the backdrop of her engagement announcement.

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    1. I ❤️ her coat. Loved the 👠.

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    2. I agree, the Coat to me looked like a Dressing Gown and her Shoes didn't fit right around her heel........
      I didn't mind the Green Dress I think simple and plain was good for the interview. I guess this is an area she will improve on as she is more in the public eye and scrutinised about her Fashion choices........I do like her style just think she needs to polish it more.

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    3. If comparing dressing gown fashion how do you thnk it compRes to Kate's poppy print dresss?

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    4. Sorry my comment about the Dressing Gown was quite harsh, love Meghan & her style........no harm intended.

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    5. They renamed the coat, The Meghan and it's sold out.

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    6. I loved the coat but the way she had it tied made her look chunky around the waist which I'm sure she is not.

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  25. Why did Meghan leave a dog behind? She says she left one in the US with close friends? Why? If she loves them that much, why would she do that? Do you happen to know. That must be so confusing for the poor pup.

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    1. Rescue dogs are often older and often have health issues. May not have been up for it or able. Happened to me once and it broke my heart I'm sure she feels same.

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    2. She is bringing the dog over to London, it's just not there yet. I think something is going on (medical, quarantine, etc.) that we don't know about. She said the other dog has been in London for awhile, so it sounds like there is a real reason for this dog to still be in Canada. But she is bringing it over at some point.

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  26. What great shape MM's mom is in!! Those are some healthy living people, MM and her mom. Good for them. And they aren't starved looking just strong and healthy.

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    2. Oh, gosh, I'm sorry, no. Didn't mean to imply that. Was just trying to say they look fit and healthy. Not too thin just perfect.

      Sometimes, I think, in our quest for good bodies, we can over do it. That's my point. Meghan and her mom seem to have found the balance. I am starting yoga now! Haha 😂 I run, but I'm adding yoga.

      And they had me at the engagement being asked over roast chicken!:) Ina Garten calls her roast chicken recipe, engagement chicken, because everyone who makes it gets engaged to their partner! So sweet.

      You do a wonderful job with your site, Jane. We all appreciate it very much. Xo

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    3. Very cool! I am just trying to keep tabs on the discussion here. :) Now you mention it, I have a cook book somewhere with engagement chicken. I wonder if it is Ina Garten... I am a huge Pilates fan, but I have fallen out of practice this year. I have been watching yoga videos recently, and they have been inspiring me. :) My New Year's resolution will be to get back on track!

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    4. Pretty sure Ina Gartens roast chicken sealed the deal for me even if my husband won't admit it. It's a family favorite here and sooo delicious. Highly recommend digging out that recipe

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    5. I remember reading about engagement chicken in a fashion magazine over a decade ago. I saved the recipe and made it for my long-time boyfriend (2002-2010) around 2006 and we did get engaged in 2007, but I made a lot more than just that chicken! I called off the engagement in 2010, three months shy of our wedding. C'est la vie.

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    6. Loved hearing the stories, 10:25 & 10:46!

      And better to call it off than be miserable. You were brave!!

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  27. Great interview! I loved that Meghan was so confident and well spoken. I think she has palpable strength, warmth, and intelligence and that Harry has followed his heart to make a fabulous choice. I think Meghan will be a significant force for good in the world, and I look forward to seeing her involved in the work that she already seems eager to embark upon. I hope she and Kate will make a great team, as well. How fun it will be to see the sisters-in-law together!

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  28. Jane it’s obviously your call since it’s your blog, but haters gonna hate regardless of what you do. Even before Meghan the comments section would turn into bashing Camilla, I remember rude comments about Lady Louise, etc.

    Granted I am seeing a lot of people who want to comment on their dislike of Meghan, but a lot of us enjoy the chat, too. As you’ve said, this is within Kate’s sphere.

    Personally, I would love to see her covered through till the wedding, and then we’ll see her when she has engagements with Kate

    ~A

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    1. You are right, ~A, and I feel guilty because I really want to comment on my dislike of Meghan! I remember how annoyed I was with the Kate critics on this blog...now I feel kindlier towards them, for if they truly were irritated by her (work shy, traditional woman's role and so on) they must have been bursting to have their say! I am irritated by Meghan cheap assurance, and lack of manners. This interview made me cringe. Now I have it out of my chest, I will try never again to write anything negative about her for I know it is annoying for other readers.

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  29. I've been on a boat all day in the San Francisco Bay and just got the chance to see this. So many thoughts right now I'm not sure where they've all settled. Meghan is very articulate and seems lovely. Whenever they talked about Diana I got a little teary. I think her only misstep may have been talking over him a couple of times. She's obviously more comfortable talking about personal things than he is and seems so natural at it but a half a step back would be the only thing I would suggest based on this interview. Great to see them nicely but obviously put the pregnancy rumors to rest. Good for them! I wish I could have seen better what she was wearing.

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  30. I was really struck by how different she is from Kate — obviously this is probably because she’s an actress and is familiar with interviews. Kate (whom I deeply admire) has always been restrained with the media, shyer, and I think she clearly defers to William, and definitely did in their interview. I thought Meghan was refreshing and clearly very comfortable in front of a camera. Her self-confidence and excitement was nice to see, as was their happiness. She seemed very American in her openness, and while I’m sure it raised some eyebrows, I think she’ll be a great addition to the Firm.

    It’s always tricky to compare the two, but I mean no negativity to Kate, whose role is a little different and maybe requires more reticence anyway. I hope they can support each other, and I hope the fans can too.



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  31. Jane, I know what you're thinking but I'm not going to say it hehe. Other than that, he is ready to start this next phase in his life and I truly believe she' the sbest person for him to do it with. She's confident and a very happy person that makes him happy who I truly believe Diana would approve of. Kate took one for the team that's for sure cause Kate waited a long time for her future King. Both share devotion to their princes and I appreciate them both for it.

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  32. and might I add. my favorite moment: the corgi story. How he's brought home others and the corgi's would bark at them, but the laid by Meghan's feet. There is no SURER sign. <3

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    2. Yeah he meant the corgis bark at him not at other women he has brought home

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  33. I read with interest all of the comments. I too think that Meghan did a fantastic job in the interview - and was definitely in danger of "taking over", certainly in the most charming of ways. She is a mature confident woman - that is not going to be able to be toned down. Plus, she radiates our American open-ness and outgoing manner - no English reticence here. Cultural differences on display... She and Harry will find their public balance, no worries. My husband is quieter, not nearly as outgoing as myself - 40 years, 5 children later - we are a fine team and Meghan and Harry will be also.

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  34. I don't disagree with those who have pointed out Meghan & Kate are different from each other. But really, why wouldn't they be? Will and Harry aren't much alike--at least not IMO-- so why would the women they choose to marry be alike? Of course, Will and Harry have different roles to play in the royal structure. And awareness of those different roles have surely shaped their personalities from an early age. But "ordinary" non-royal sibs often aren't much alike either for a host of reasons--genetics, birth order, changes in the family structure/dynamics over time, changes in societal norms/expectations, & so on.

    I think H&M seem very much in love and while love may not conquer all, it surely helps when weathering life's inevitable storms!

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    1. I think h&m will be fine. They are very deep in the line to throne and are free to focus on their happiness and causes. I think in balance with the Cambridges there is much the BRF can accomplish.

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  35. I loved this whole day. Meghan was so refreshing in her interview. To me she came off as a polished, professional, confident young American. I truly did not think she 'dominated' anything! Absolutely fantastic, and a breath of air to me. As I've grown into my career and my marriage (I'm a few years younger than Kate), I've had a harder time connecting with Kate's role and the way she's chosen to fulfill it, though I don't pretend to know every consideration and really can't and don't judge her. Watching her is just a hobby, and I keep it positive. Still, so wonderful to see someone who looks like a true role model for me on Harry's arm! I agree with the comment above, she radiates American open-ness and our outgoing manner. We connect with people by sharing our stories and I think she's eager to connect with people in the UK, not uncouth or loud-mouthed. She even protected her friend's privacy, proof that she's thoughtful when she speaks.

    Comparisons between Kate and Meghan really feel like a backslide to me. Women need to support each other, and I have a goal of not comparing them over the coming years. Shout out to my fellow Americans on here and cheers to our own future Duchess, such fun!

    Jane, I totally understand your desire to continue a focus on Kate. I'll be interested to see which Meghan blogs gather fans like yours have.

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  36. Meghan has better fashion sense and is more well traveled. Kate has more British sense and BRF experience. Kate & Willis fell in love in the U.K. and got engaged in Africa. Meghan and Harry fell in love Botswana and got engaged in the U,K. Let those ladies have tea, discuss, and move them all towards a very happy future.

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  37. I loved the interview! I think Harry and Meghan both did great!

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  38. I've read all the comments so far and have to say I am shocked by the negativity directed at Meghan. Why do these people love Kate but hate Meghan so much?

    Re the interview: I think there were a few awkward moments when Harry was trying to cut her off but in general she looked happy and at ease and they both looked very much in love. My guess is she seemed more dominant to some people because some of her answers were more elaborate than his, but I personally felt the interview was well balanced. As an actress with loads of interview experience she'll do well at public engagements and I'm sure she'll grow into her role fast.

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  39. A beautiful; confident young woman, who seemed to me to be quite naturally a little excited.
    Don't want to be too critical on such a happy day for them, but thought the coat was ill-fitting.
    That this is a love match is easy to see.
    One thing her beauty comes mainly from her sparkling eyes--just like Catherine's.

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  40. Enjoyed reading all the comments. One must remember Meghan’s profession is: an actress.....she can deliver dialogue with confidence and warmth. She is in for the acting role of her life....an academy award performance. It is a 24/7 role of a lifetime. It is good she moved to England as she can spend valuable time with Harry. Long distant relationships are so exciting and filled with joy. Living together will provide the much needed opportunity for both of them to acclimate to each other on a daily basis. We all love and adore Harry and only want the best for him. As with most of the comments Meghan did over speak on Harry. She will need to grow into this new role and it will take time and allow Harry to speak. Regarding comments about age and royal engagements: Diana was younger than Kate, and Kate was younger than Meghan so comparisons are unfair. Meghan is an accomplished television actress who can professionally communicate her thoughts and feelings.

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    1. Thank you! I was going to say a lot of this. Meghan seemed confident and poised. Claims of "she talks too much" or is "dominant" are simply code for she's not being "in her station" enough as a woman. Finally, a breath of fresh air!

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    2. A note on the dogs: there are so many issues there involving quarantine, re: moving an animal from the US to the UK/different countries. A friend of mine expatriated to France and didn't know if her cat would be coming with her until the departure date (he did, she had her sister ready in case not). Please don't snipe at her animal parenting skills with such wick judgment, folks.

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    3. You're only reading this as sexist because she's a woman. If it were a royal daughter getting married the same respect would be expected from her male fiancee. You don't talk over the royals. You may find this archaic but this is their protocol. She is choosing to marry into this family and this life - nobody is forcing her to do this. There are manners that are expected and she should learn them sooner rather than later.

      I agree with you 6:18 about the dogs. I'm sure there was a very good reason for her to turn the care of her one dog over to people she trusts. I'm sure the decision was made by weighing what was best for the dog. He may not have strong enough health for the trip or the quarantine. If he has any pit bull in him he is illegal in the UK. It could be any number of reasons.

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  41. It's all been so lovely...I thought Meghan looked great & they both look so in love. Their engagement interview was the absolute icing on the cake! Can't wait for the wedding & for them to officially start their lives together :) Bring it on!

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  42. Wait, what century are we in? Some of these comments about humility, dominance, and being "demure" just blow my mind. Why, exactly, *should* she be so respectful, demure, or humble? She's a grown woman giving a joint interview with her fiance, and her biggest obligation is being approachable and warm (not humble and demure, yuck). In at least a few comments, there seems to be some good, old-fashioned sexism to unpack.

    Meghan may feel, rightly, like he's just as fortunate to be marrying her as she is to be marrying him. And Harry is at least as media-savvy as she is after a lifetime spent in the public eye. If he wanted to talk more, he would have.

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    1. I love your comments JTQ! I was thinking the same thing. It is one thing to be respectful and another to be "demure" etc. Meghan was very respectful. She just has an outgoing personality (hello she is an actress) and is comfortable in front of the media for her job. No other royal fiance has that background.

      I guess I could see the point about how she referenced the queen, but I could see that being an innocent American slip. I am American and always found myself to be very knowledgeable of the BRF and I didn't realize you couldn't call HM "she" or "her". I'll give her a pass on that.

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    2. Thx for putting my thoughts into words.

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    3. A century with a Monarchy, if you don't like those things then you don't like it.....so the plot is different...A Monarchy which is ancient in the XXI century??

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    4. Anon 10:39 - Monarchies, like everything else, evolve and change. Which is why, among a host of other things, the Queen cannot implement taxes, subjects are no longer obligated to curtsy/bow when meeting her, the Queen pays taxes, and a Royal living with their partner before marriage is no longer unthinkable. The monarchy might be old and slow to change, but it changes nonetheless.

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    5. People who support the monarchy don't like "modern" things or evolutions .
      What will happen when the King hasn't got "blue" flood. The King must be sort of regal or nobody will respect him/her.

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    6. Um monarchies evolve all the time 11:14.

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    7. Or not, as in France, Italy, Portugal, Russia, Germany.....

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    8. Monarchies do evolve, but it's sort of like putting a turtle on a Nascar track.

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  43. I don't think the comments reflect sexism, I think they relate to the organizational structure of "the firm." And it is a business into which Meghan is marrying. Like any business, you show respect for positions above your own and the people who hold those positions. And the royal family is not a business in which you can "work your way up" -- in fact, her position will actually diminish over time. It's a very different business to the acting/hollywood business and marketing strategy to which she's accustomed. She will never be on equal footing to Harry nor to many others in the firm. There is an organizational structure and a respect that is due to those in higher positions. Prince Phillip, Prince Charles, Prince William and Prince Harry all show proper decorum in public settings to the Queen, because she is higher in the organizational structure. Prince Harry will always be higher in the organizational structure and the only reason this interview took place was because HE is involved; yet throughout the interview she acted as if the interviewer was there to interview her. In truth, she will never really represent herself again; she will be in a supporting role as a representative of the monarch and the firm (until future generations push Harry, Meghan and their kids even farther from the center of the stage). Hopefully she will settle down and settle into this role as successfully as Sophie Wessex has done; she would be a very good role model for Meghan (far better than Catherine in many ways, as Sophie and Meghan's paths, roles, expectations and limitations are far more similar).

    That said, Harry and Meghan seem well matched and happy. I hope they have a very happy private life and are able to start and really enjoy their own little family soon (as they both seem keen to do). I wish them both all the best.

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    1. You are completely wrong.

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    2. anon 9:24, you are completely right and I think your analysis is on point. I agree with you.

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    3. Anon 9:24, you have articulated some very excellent points. I had never really thought it through but you are correct. Your actual position and movement in the Royal Family is set for life. Meghan's and Harry's prominence will in fact diminish over the years as George, Charlotte and # 3 move up in age and responsibility.

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    4. 100% agree. And I don't think Meghan "gets" it.
      Her behavior was rude. Has nothing to do with gender or anything else. Just be polite...

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    5. I so agree with you, 9:24!

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    6. Exactly correct 9:24. Also on the point of Meghan taking some clues from Sophie Wessex, that is very good advice for her. Not that Kate isn't a great role model it's just that she will eventually be Queen Consort and Meghan will be the sister-in-law of the King just as Sophie will eventually be. There is also always deference to a "blood royal" which is why Kate has to curtsy to the York girls when William isn't present. It may sound galling but that is how it is.

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    7. Not only are their positions in the BRF more similar but Sophie had the experience of giving up a career as well and the transition from professional duties to BRF duties.

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  44. The Mirror put up the silent clip of the few minutes before the interview started. Here’s a link, if anyone cares to look! http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/lipreaders-reveal-what-loved-up-11601469.amp

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  45. Did anyone else think she seems a little insecure about the timeline of their relationship? She keeps rounding up "A year and a half, two years", then Harry corrects her- a year and a half. Then when she talks about how much time they dated before the public knew, she rounds up again to six months and he says four or five.

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    1. I am curious about the timeline too, especially after Vanity Fair issued a correction to its story on that point. I love her outgoing personality though. :-)

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    2. I caught that, too. It's like what RobinfromCA said upthread - they (or maybe she) is trying to downplay how quickly they moved.

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  46. Very cute interview. I think they were both excited and nervous in the interview. With all the hand holding I wondered if they gave each other hand squeezes to indicate lets not go there, lets change the direction etc. Meghan is an actress and used to cameras but to me she seemed nervous as well. Cute dress and coat in the outside part. The shoes are cute. The ring is gorgeous. Simple but beautiful diamonds and a family connection.

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  47. Jane, will you be sharing your thoughts on the engagement video? I'll admit, the speculation and pretending that we "know them" as we do with Kate is fun. You always bring an interesting perspective. Glad to see the Duchess out today!

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    1. Maybe. I couldn't share now if I wanted to, because I have too many law school deadlines in the next two weeks to do anything but throw up a hasty picture of Kate and keep running. Sadly. I will post over the holiday, I think. I have some pretty strong thoughts. It just might take me a few weeks to be back on my feet. Info is coming in thick and fast, though. I am sharing most news right now on my Twitter account @princesskate_gb, because I can do that while walking), and I like to post on Instagram, so if you feel things are quiet around here, I touch base on Instagram a lot. I'll be back on the blog once I have locked in a successful semester. :)

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    2. Good luck with your studies! I also have a JD and know how intense exam time can be. I will pop over to your social media and look forward to hearing your thoughts! I'm pretty sure any one of your readers would love to meet up with you in real life for a cup of tea (or coffee, champagne) and gush all things Windsor for an afternoon. :-)

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    3. Jane, I'm picking up from your comments that you're not totally on board? :)

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    4. That's how I interpret it 9:06

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  48. I did notice that Meghan spoke most, "dominated" the interview, if you must. But, the interviewers questions were directed mostly to her.

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  49. All of this "Meghan dominating" talk makes me recall a study in College where participants observed male and female actors in conversation. The participants watched, then took a survey. Almost all of them perceived the female to be talking too much/dominating the conversation, even though the female script actually contained fewer words.

    That appears to be the case here as well. I pulled the entire script of the Harry/Meghan interview into Excel to separate their text, then into Word to do a word count:

    Meghan spoke up 54 times, using a total of 1725 words

    Harry spoke up 51 times using a total of 1724 words

    She spoke only one more word than he did.

    Belle

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    1. Thank you, Belle, you’re a genius! I was just thinking of the same thing myself - kudos to you for having done that work! It really is fascinating how our conditioning causes us to “hear” a huge difference in how much they spoke, despite none existing. Science FTW.

      Tsipa

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    2. I don't think the complaint was that she spoke more than Harry, the complaint was that she talked over him. At least that was my complaint.

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    3. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this - definitely altered my perspective when I re-watched the interview. It's good to be asked to gut-check our biases w/ facts every now and then!

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    4. 10:11 I re-watched the video just now, and for the most part, they each let the other finish answering the questions they were asked. I didn't count a laugh or nod or a yes type response from the other as an interruption (there were plenty on both sides), but here is a list of the times I felt one "talked over" the other:

      Meghan
      "we should protect her privacy"
      "so nicely said"
      "we've had"
      "she's with us"

      Harry
      "I tried to warn you"
      "sing"
      "you've met quite a few of them actually"
      "couple of times"
      "her mom's amazing"

      I see the entire video as a healthy back and forth banter from two people who are in love and excited to share their story. No one can predict what the future holds for these two, but I think we can trust 33 year old Harry's decision that she is right for him. And I wish them all the best as they begin their new life together. It's all we can really do--or say.

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    5. If they opt to have a primarily private life, focusing on their family behind-the-scenes and not have a very public profile as working royals, then yes it's entirely Harry's decision. But if they plan to be working royals representing the monarch, then the choice must be right for the role and not just right for Harry.

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  50. I don't care if Meghan dominates their relationship, that's all conjecture anyway. I did think the way she talked over Harry and interrupted was ungracious.

    She has spent her adult life in pursuit of the spotlight, the bumpy road for her will be very different than what it was for Kate. Marrying into the BRF is taking on a duty that must be, in many ways, selfless. Does she have it in her??
    (IMHO, a few well-photographed, well-choreographed outings with kids in Africa does not equal selfless humanitarian...)

    100% agree with everyone who has pointed out that M and K are very different women. Apples and oranges. Comparing to find a superior person is ridiculous.

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    1. Meghan has already made significant sacrifices for this marriage/the BRF - giving up her home, her beloved dog, her career, some of her charities, her citizenship & the possibility that she could ever live within an easy journey to her hometown and relatives. If that's not a significant first act of selflessness I'm not sure what would count.

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  51. There is something I find interesting. Very obviously for MM but also other royal brides, there is a pretence of down playing the amazing change that is happening to them. Instead of honestly admitting it is the most unexpected undreamed for wonderful event, MM just sees it as a natural step in her career! It is IMO not only hypocritical but also somewhat blasé and arrogant. "He is lucky to get me" well, so he is, but can't you see, what the whole world sees,that in a material, wordly point of view, you have made a better bargain than he has? After all it is what every little girl dreams of. Reality may be different, and is, for it is not a millionaire she marrying but someone with a position that comes with a lot of restraints and burdens. She will notice it sooner than later. But why can't she be natural enough and admit she is living the Cinderella story? She may be a strong independent woman, whatever that means, and had to give up her small rented house in Toronto and the 8th season of a almost unknown TV show. Why didn't Harry leave his live in the RF, the privileges and mansions and go live from her salary and in her home in Toronto? I don't think this is just a continuity in her until now perfect live.It is an amazing thing that happened to her and she would be more attractive if she didn't try to sell the "I am worth it" version. I shouldn't make comparisons, but what attracted me to Kate at the beginning was her girlish natural excitement, that gave the impression she felt the luckiest girl on earth, which IMO was very refreshing compared to previous royal brides like Letizia.

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  52. The Cinderella myth died with Diana Anon 2:04. A royal marriage is an amazing transformation, but as you pointed out it comes with both benefits *and* burdens. Not everyone is willing to take on that package (just ask Chelsy). Harry may have more wealth and privilege, but he hasn't had what money can't buy - a loving partner to share his life with. If you think Kate hasn't commented that William is lucky to have her or chafed at some of the restrictions of BRF life then you haven't been paying attention.

    And no you should not compare Meghan and Kate. They are completely different women and there is room enough in the world for both of them.

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    1. 7:26 I wasn't around at the time of Diana's wedding, but she wasn't a Cinderella by far. She didn't gain anything by the marriage but a public life with heavy duties. She did it for love and because serving your country was a powerful notion in her social circle. But she already had a lot of the advantages of the royal life without the inconvenients. Harry is of course lucky to have found love and a person to share the (relative, for a younger son) burdens of his life but she not only got love but wealth and position on a scale she didn't have and could never have reached by her own effort. So yes, a Cinderella.2:04

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    2. Diana gained a position (HRH) she could never have reached on her own too, and was loathe to give it up.

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    3. Anon 10:02. I agree. I believe Kate does well in her position because she knows her self-worth and Meghan's confidence will serve her well, too, but it really is a wondrous thing to become a real-life Princess - which is why the Royals are still so insanely popular.

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    4. 10:30 she did, but she came from the kind of family who had married in the RF before, there was no huge gap. For her it was truly a " next step" And what is funny is that she seemed much more aware of the honour than Meghan.

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    5. And yet she clearly had no true idea of what she was getting into as evidenced by everything that followed the wedding Anon 10:53. Diana's life also makes a case for the "honor" of the position can including very significant downsides. It is a wonderful thing to become a princess but it's simply not true that the transition is a 100% improvement for all aspects of ones life.

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    6. of course it is not an improvement in all aspects, 11:53; but as you say, it is a wonderful thing. Why try to act as if that wasn't the case? it does not take anything from Meghan's worth to admit that. And that this marriage is a more wonderful thing in many aspect for her than it is for him.

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